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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Love in the Time of Glasnost

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As the Cold War entered its twilight and Gorbachev’s glasnost began to thaw decades of ideological frost, Australian director Fred Schepisi gave us ‘The Russia House’ (1990) from John le Carré’s 1989 novel - a bruised, adult meditation on trust and love, wrapped in the attire of a spy thriller.


While it proved too cerebral and ‘slow burn’ for most audiences at the time, it is time today to recognise Schepisi’s film as one of the most accomplished adaptations of a le Carré’s novel, surpassed only by The Spy Who Came in from the Cold (1965) and the twin Alec Guinness-led BBC mini-series of Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy and Smiley’s People.


Blessed with a cracking screenplay by Tom Stoppard, the central premise of ‘The Russia House’ is that decency requires sacrifice and that truth in a world of professional liars is the most dangerous thing of all. The result is not so much a thriller as a conversation between two weary cultures, carried out through jazz, vodka and the furtive optimism of people no longer quite sure what they believe in.


Barley Blair (played by Sean Connery) is no Bond. He is a man out of time, a dishevelled, jazz-loving, boozy London publisher who shambles through his own life with a blend of charm and remorse. Blair is drafted into an amateur game of espionage when a manuscript from a dissident Soviet physicist code-named ‘Dante’ (the magnetic Klaus Maria Brandauer) is delivered to him via a luminous Muscovite, Katya Orlova (Michelle Pfeiffer). The manuscript, a blueprint for the weakness of the Soviet military complex, threatens to disrupt the delicate detente.


But this is no standard spy caper. The real secrets here are emotional. What does it mean to risk oneself for another?  “Today one must think like a hero to behave like a merely decent human being,” Barley declaims.


The Western intelligence services - British and American alike - are shown as bureaucratic machines blind to humanity (a running le Carrean theme since ‘The Spy who came in from the Cold’). And love, when it arrives, is “inconvenient” and ultimately redemptive.


Connery gives a performance of immense subtlety and self-effacement. His Barley is no action man, but a man of regrets, illusions and unexpected conviction. He is a man in late middle age grappling with the possibility that ideals can still matter. Pfeiffer, poised and tragic, makes Katya more than a cipher. Her strength is in her dignity and soft defiance of a system that devours its children. Together, they convey an intelligent, unshowy and profound middle-aged love rarely seen on screen (never mind espionage cinema).


Around them, the supporting cast hums with restrained brilliance. James Fox is splendid as the sympathetic spymaster Nedsky while Roy Scheider’s CIA man exudes that peculiar blend of charm and menace only an American can project in a le Carré story. The difference in spycraft cultures - patient British cynicism versus American pragmatism and force - is elegantly suggested rather than declaimed.


The film’s mood is immeasurably enhanced by Jerry Goldsmith’s superb jazz-inflected score, featuring Branford Marsalis on the saxophone. The music itself is a lament - sinuous, melancholic and oddly hopeful. Ian Baker’s cinematography captures the wan, grey beauty of Moscow and Leningrad in the thaw of the Soviet empire’s last days. There is something elegiac about it all.


As the Cold War collapses not with a bang but a shrug, ‘The Russia House’ captures the existential confusion of a world that no longer knows how to divide right from wrong.


There are no heroes here, only fallible people navigating collapsing ideologies. The West’s self-congratulatory assumption that it has “won” the Cold War is gently punctured in Barley’s idealistic choice to sell the ‘shopping list’ to the Soviets to save Katya and her family - a decision driven by love and conscience, two things intelligence agencies across the world regard as liabilities.


Schepisi steers the film with unhurried elegance and intelligence, trusting in the power of silence, of glances held a second too long. That makes ‘The Russia House’ too slow for attention-deficit audiences raised on explosions and double-crosses. But for those attuned to its wavelength, it offers riches few thrillers even aspire to.


Thirty-five years on, The Russia House remains an anomaly - a thinking person’s spy film that also functions as a poignant love story, a cultural document and a farewell to a world that once seemed more morally navigable. It is time we gave it its due.

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