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Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

From Force to Fellowship

India’s laws and policing must finally shed their colonial skin and learn to govern by consent rather than coercion.

India’s legal and policing architecture still carries the unmistakable imprint of the Raj. Its instincts are adversarial, its reflexes coercive, and its imagination confined to order rather than justice. That gap between authority and legitimacy is not merely administrative but philosophical, and it urgently needs repair.


Let us turn to statecraft as explained in the Valmiki Ramayana. In a dialogue in the Ayodhya Kand, Lord Ram explains the meaning of justice to Bharat. It is worth revisiting these ideas in the original epic to appreciate the values emphasised there and apply them to our present circumstances. Justice, in that telling, is not domination by law but moral authority exercised for public welfare. Modern India, for all its constitutional sophistication, has drifted far from that intuition.

 

Unruly Dissent

Consider the management of protest where roads are blocked, railways paralysed, campuses shut down often in the name of peaceful dissent. Courts are increasingly impatient with this theatre of disruption. In January 2026, while rejecting bail for Umar Khalid and Shajeel Imran, the Supreme Court of India held that a “terrorist act” under UAPA could extend to disruption of essential supplies and civic life even without overt violence. Universities have followed suit. Delhi University recently warned that “unrestricted public gathering” risks escalation and deterioration of law and order.

 

Some time back, when Manoj Jarange-Patil proposed to bringthousands of agitators in Mumbai in support of his demand forreservation for Maratha community, his advocates had furnishedwritten undertakings to the Bombay High Court stating they would not disrupt normal life in the city. However, things happened exactly opposite and when theHigh Court called for his explanation, Jarange submitted that the personswho did obstruct normal life were not his followers. Thus, protestleaders do not take the responsibility for the escalation of thesituation which takes unruly turn.

 

The right to protest does not include the right to paralyse normal economic and civil activity. The habit of defying law enforcement has roots in the freedom struggle, when M.K. Gandhi deployed non-cooperation as a weapon against foreign rule. After independence, however, mass protests that disrupt everyday life must be curtailed through clear legal provisions and broad political consensus.

 

No one has the right to block roads or railways while claiming peaceful intent. Protest leaders cannot disown responsibility when crowds turn unruly. A republic cannot function on perpetual exception.

 

If protest reveals the state’s weakness, corruption reveals its rot. Across South Asia, Africa, Latin America and Eastern Europe, recent upheavals share a common cause: youth anger at unaccountable, corrupt governance. According to the Berlin-based watchdog Transparency International, India ranks 91st on the Corruption Perception Index 2025. Its warning is stark: corruption hollows out hospitals, infrastructure and the hopes of young people.

 

Colonial Hangover

India’s anti-corruption framework remains a colonial hangover. The Prevention of Corruption Act was born amid wartime shortages, not democratic expectations. Today, there is a widespread perception that no routine work moves without greasing palms, often at the behest of seniors. Pay commissions have raised salaries handsomely; corruption has nevertheless escalated. Trap cases take a decade to be heard and disproportionate-assets cases languish. Even judicial officers are no longer immune from suspicion. In countries such as Japan, South Korea and Singapore, Prime Ministers and Presidents go to jail when wrongdoing is proved. In India, deterrence is weak and delay is the norm. Unless corruption is tackled in earnest, the fruits of growth will remain far from the common citizen.

 

Nowhere is the colonial inheritance clearer than in policing. The system of district superintendents under magistrates, and commissioners with magisterial powers, was designed to perpetuate imperial rule while maintaining a façade of order. Police were agents of authority, not partners of the public. That model persisted after 1947 with few changes. It is now overburdened and distrusted. The results are familiar: frequent breakdowns of law and order; the rise of organised crime, terrorism, narco-trafficking and cyber offences; political interference; and public hostility so intense that policemen are attacked even during routine duties. Police have become a reactive force, arriving after the damage is done.

 

Innovative Solutions

Yet India has changed. It has a youthful demographic surplus, socially committed citizens, and many able elderly people willing to contribute to public life. Policing must adapt accordingly. With this in mind, I experimented with a different approach while serving as Commissioner of Police in Nagpur between 2008 and 2010 in form of the ‘Police Mitr’a scheme.

 

In this, every police station involved vetted local volunteers - men and women, from all communities - to assist the police under strict supervision. They were trained to prevent rumours, identify suspicious objects, help missing children, assist senior citizens, manage traffic at peak hours, and regulate crowds during festivals and public meetings. They did not act independently. Volunteers performed tasks only under police guidance; no identity cards were issued to prevent misuse.

 

The effects were tangible. Street-level crime fell by over 15 percent. Complaints about non-registration of offences nearly disappeared. There were no custodial deaths and no allegations of third-degree methods. This was not vigilantism Volunteers helped uncover serious crimes, reduced corruption by increasing transparency, and educated neighbourhoods about cybercrime, fraud and radicalisation. They acted, quite literally, as ambassadors of peace and justice.

 

Encouraged by these results, I expanded the scheme across Maharashtra after 2015 (excluding Mumbai). Over 200,000 citizens volunteered. Assaults on vulnerable groups declined by more than 10 percent. Street crime fell sharply. Several radicalised youths were identified early and restored to normalcy. Coastal volunteers assisted with maritime security; rural volunteers helped prevent armed robberies; urban volunteers managed massive crowds during Eid, Ganapati and Navratri. The scheme had no financial burden and required no legal amendment, only leadership and trust.

 

Its limitation is revealing. The scheme survives only where senior officers support it. Without institutional backing or integration into police training, such initiatives remain fragile.

 

Legal reform in India need not mean endless new statutes. It requires a shift in attitude - from suspicion to trust, from force to fellowship. A state that distrusts its citizens will always need coercion. One that trusts them may finally earn peace and govern a truly modern republic.

 

(The author is former Director General of Police, Maharashtra. Views personal.)

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