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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Gambit Gone Wrong

Hitherto India’s most combative cricketer, Gautam Gambhir now faces the most bruising test of his leadership following India’s humiliating Test defeats on home turf.

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Gautam Gambhir built a reputation on defiance. As a batsman he thrived on hostility, noise and pressure. He was, at his best, a specialist in moments that made others flinch. India’s two most defining white-ball victories of the modern era - World T20 2007 and the World Cup final of 2011 - were shaped by Gambhir’s unlikely serenity under siege. That temperament was precisely why his elevation to India’s head coach last year was greeted with a mix of intrigue and apprehension. Today, after back-to-back home Test series defeats - first a 3–0 whitewash against New Zealand, now a 2–0 loss to South Africa – that apprehension has curdled into something closer to alarm.


India’s latest defeat, sealed on home soil against South Africa for the first time in 25 years, has a particular sting. In Guwahati and Kolkata, pitches were curated for turn. India went in with four spinners, the sort of tactical overkill that once promised suffocation. Instead, it produced confusion. South Africa’s batters found clarity and India’s bowlers found only drift. A team that once treated home conditions as a private fortress now appears strangely unsettled by them.


Under Mahendra Singh Dhoni and then Virat Kohli, India’s home dominance became routine, almost dull. Kohli even had to insist in press conferences that “winning at home isn’t easy” because his team made it look precisely that. Spinners spun webs; batters piled on runs; pacers were backed into match-winners.


That fortress is now under visible stress. New Zealand’s clean sweep last year was dismissed as an aberration as India had never before been whitewashed in a home series of three or more Tests. Yet the numbers since read like a slow institutional failure: five defeats in seven home Tests; two series losses in a calendar year for the first time in over four decades. Against South Africa, India failed to chase 124 in Kolkata. In Guwahati, where a Kohli side would once have made merry, India failed to cross 250 even once, while the visitors stacked 489 in their first innings.


The uppermost question is what has changed so quickly for India under Gambhir?


His appointment itself was a gamble. Apart from guiding an IPL franchise to the 2024 title, he had never coached a senior professional team. The idea was that his steel and simplicity would cut through the sclerosis that often paralyses Indian cricket’s middle layers. Instead, his first full year has looked less like renewal than controlled demolition. India lost 1–3 in Australia in the Border–Gavaskar Trophy - its first series loss there in a decade. The fallout was dramatic. Ashwin retired midway through the tour. Weeks later, Rohit Sharma and Virat Kohli walked away from Test cricket after briefly returning to domestic matches, as if to signal unfinished intent.


What followed was indecisive optimism. A young Indian side under Shubman Gill salvaged a 2–2 draw in England, against a brittle English team trying to reinvent itself mid-series. West Indies were beaten 2–0 at home, but not comfortably. And then came South Africa and with them, another reckoning.


Gambhir insists the explanation is ‘transition.’ It is a neat managerial phrase, but an unconvincing excuse. A decade ago, India navigated the near-simultaneous departures of Anil Kumble, Sachin Tendulkar, Rahul Dravid and VVS Laxman without surrendering its home invincibility.


This time, the exits have been messier. Rohit, Kohli and Ashwin did not wish to leave when they did. After the twin disasters of New Zealand and Australia, fingers were pointed at the seniors rather than at systems as ‘collective accountability’ quietly vanished from the vocabulary.


That is the paradox of Gambhir the coach. As a player he embodied clarity: see ball, hit ball, absorb pressure, ignore noise. As a leader, he has so far presided over drift.


Gambhir was never the most gifted Indian batsman of his generation. He succeeded because he refused to be intimidated by circumstance. That refusal now confronts a system more complex than any fast bowler. India’s embarrassment is no longer foreign conditions abroad. It is the slow, spinning surfaces where they once ruled.


The fan backlash after the South Africa series has been fierce, personal and unforgiving. In a country where cricket is both theatre and therapy, losing at home is experienced as an existential shock for many fans.

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