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Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

HC cracks whip; orders SIT probe  

After police lapses, case takes a decisive turn following strict intervention by the Bombay High Court


Ambernath: Nearly one-and-a-half years after the brutal murder of Sanjay Patil on Shivmandir Road in Ambernath, the case has taken a decisive turn following strict intervention by the Bombay High Court. Acting on allegations of grave lapses and deliberate inaction by local police, the court has ordered the formation of a Special Investigation Team (SIT) under the leadership of a senior IPS officer to reinvestigate the crime in a time-bound manner.

 

Sanjay Patil was brutally stabbed 32 times and murdered around 10 pm on October 22, 2024, in what was described as a shocking and gruesome killing that created fear across the city. Despite the seriousness of the offence, the Shivajinagar Police allegedly failed to act decisively. The victim’s wife, Vidya Patil, had accused the police of deliberately delaying the investigation and attempting to suppress the case by not arresting the accused despite the availability of crucial evidence.

 

Following continued inaction, the victim’s son, Hardik Patil, approached the Bombay High Court seeking justice. During the hearing, the High Court strongly criticised the local police’s handling of the murder investigation. The court directed that the probe be transferred to an IPS officer of the rank of Deputy Commissioner of Police and ordered a fresh, impartial investigation.

 

As per the court’s directive, the investigation has now been handed over to DCP Parag Manere of the Economic Offences Wing, who will head the SIT. The High Court has also fixed a strict deadline of 12 weeks to complete the entire investigation and instructed the Thane Police Commissioner to ensure compliance.

 

Earlier, Vidya Patil had also approached the Maharashtra State Women’s Commission, stating that she and her family were facing threats to their lives from the accused and their relatives. She had demanded that the case be transferred to the CBI. However, following the High Court’s direct intervention, the investigation has now been transferred from the Shivajinagar Police to senior IPS officers, and the earlier applications have been formally closed.

 

Renewed Hope

For over a year, the accused remained at large, leaving the victim’s family living in fear. With the SIT now in charge, there is renewed hope that those responsible for the murder will finally be brought to justice. Citizens of Ambernath are closely watching whether the masterminds behind the crime that terrorised the city will finally be held accountable.

 

While Speaking to, ‘The Perfect Voice’, Sanjay Patil’s daughter, Harshada Patil, said that the family continues to live under constant fear, leading to severe mental distress. “Even today, the accused are roaming freely. The police have treated the suspects as if they have no connection to the case, despite knowing that they are the main accused. Important evidence was ignored, and the police failed to arrest anyone even after having sufficient proof,” she alleged. Harshada Patil further claimed that the police showed negligence in collecting critical evidence such as CCTV footage, clearly indicating investigative failure at the local level. “Now that the probe has been transferred to the SIT, we have placed our trust in this investigation. We will have to see what happens next,” she said.

 

Meanwhile, DCP Sachin Gore of Police Zone 4 confirmed the development, stating, “As per the Hon’ble High Court’s orders, the murder investigation has been transferred to an IPS officer of DCP rank. The probe has been entrusted to DCP Parag Manere of the Economic Offences Wing, and the investigation will be completed in a fair and thorough manner within the 12-week timeframe mandated by the court. Necessary measures are also being taken to ensure the safety of the complainant.”


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