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Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

India-Pakistan Cricket Rivalry on Life Support?

Oh, the India-Pakistan cricket rivalry – that age-old spectacle where borders blur, families feud over flat screens, and street vendors hawk flags like they’re going out of style. Remember when it was the stuff of legends? Tense chases, nail-biting finishes, and enough drama to make Bollywood blush. But let’s be honest, folks: at the World Cup stage, this so-called “epic clash” is starting to feel less like a thriller and more like a predictable rom-com where one side always gets the girl – and the trophy. With India’s stranglehold now at an absurd 16-1 overall in ICC World Cup matches (combining ODI and T20 formats), including that fresh 61-run thrashing in the 2026 T20 World Cup, it’s time to ask: is this rivalry dying a slow, sarcastic death? Spoiler: yes, and it’s hilarious how we’re all pretending otherwise.


Let’s rewind to the glory days, shall we? Back in the ‘90s and early 2000s, these matches were pure adrenaline. Sachin Tendulkar dismantling Shoaib Akhtar like he was swatting a pesky fly, or Wasim Akram making Indian batsmen question their life choices. The hype was real – billions tuned in, economies paused, and even non-cricket fans pretended to care. But fast-forward to today, and it’s like watching a heavyweight boxer spar with a featherweight who’s forgotten his gloves. India shows up, flexes its billion-dollar IPL muscles, and Pakistan… well, they try. Bless their hearts.


Take the stats, for instance. In the ODI World Cup, India has a flawless 8–0 record against Pakistan. That’s right – zero losses. Not a single one. It’s like Pakistan’s been auditioning for the role of ‘eternal underdog’ and nailing it every time. Then there’s the T20 World Cup, where the ratio is 8–1 in India’s favour, with Pakistan’s lone victory coming back in 2021 – a ten-wicket drubbing that felt like a glitch in the matrix. Oh, how the mighty have… stayed mighty on one side. That 2021 win was Pakistan’s mic-drop moment, but since then? Nada. Zilch. India just keeps adding to the tally, like they’re collecting Pokémon cards instead of World Cup scalps.


And the 2026 T20 World Cup clash? Pure comedy gold. India posts 175, thanks to Ishan Kishan’s fireworks (77 off who-knows-how-many, but it looked effortless), and Pakistan crumbles to 114 like a house of cards in a monsoon. Jasprit Bumrah and crew turned it into a bowling clinic, while Pakistan’s batsmen played like they were allergic to runs. Usman Khan’s 44 was the highlight – yay, participation trophy! – but the rest? Babar Azam, once hailed as the next big thing, looked like he was batting with a borrowed willow from the ‘90s. It’s almost sad, if it weren’t so predictably funny. Viewership hit record highs at 16.


Three million digitally, surpassing even the 2024 final, proving that even in its lopsided state, this ‘rivalry’ still sells like hot samosas. But why? Morbid curiosity? Or are we all just hoping for that one-in-a-million upset?


Sarcasm aside (okay, not really), the dying embers of this rivalry stem from a cocktail of factors. First, India’s rise as a cricket superpower. With a population of 1.4 billion, endless talent pools, and a league that turns rookies into rockstars overnight, Team India is a well-oiled machine. They’ve got depth in batting, bowling that could dismantle fortresses, and fielding that’s evolved from ‘catch it if you can’ to Olympic-level acrobatics. Pakistan, on the other hand, has been plagued by inconsistency – think musical chairs with captains, boardroom dramas that rival soap operas, and a talent pipeline that’s more a leak than flow. Remember when Mohammad Yousuf lamented how that 2021 win inflated egos? “Everyone began to think there’s no one better than us,” he said, and poof – back to reality with a string of losses. It’s like Pakistan peaked too early and forgot the script calls for comebacks, not complacency.


Humour me for a second: imagine if this were any other sport. In football, if Brazil had thrashed Argentina 16–1 over decades, we’d call it a mismatch, not a rivalry. Fans would yawn, sponsors would flee, and commentators would recycle the same tired lines about ‘history’ and ‘passion"’. But cricket? Nah, we amp it up with montages of past glories, celebrity cameos, and enough pre-match build-up to launch a space shuttle. “The greatest rivalry in sports!” they proclaim, while India casually extends the streak. It’s like hyping a boxing match between Mike Tyson in his prime and… well, me after a heavy lunch. Entertaining? Sure. Competitive? Please.


Don’t get me wrong – there’s still magic in the air when these two line up. The anthems blare, the crowds roar (or, in Colombo’s case, monsoon permitting), and for those first few overs, anything feels possible. Pakistan has the raw talent – think Shaheen Afridi’s swing or Haris Rauf’s pace – to turn tides on their day. But ‘their day’ has been as rare as a quiet commentary box. And with India’s dominance showing no signs of slowing the ICC must be rubbing its hands in glee. More views, more money, even if the on-field product is about as balanced as a seesaw with an elephant on one end.


So, is the rivalry dead? Not quite – it’s on life support, sustained by nostalgia and nationalism. But let’s call it what it is: a one-sided affair that’s lost its bite. Pakistan needs a revival – better governance, consistent selections, and maybe a dash of that old-school grit. Until then, these World Cup encounters will remain predictable pageants, where India struts and Pakistan stumbles. Funny? Absolutely. Riveting? Only if you enjoy watching the same punchline over and over. Here’s hoping for a plot twist in 2027’s ODI World Cup – because if India makes it 17–1, we might as well rename it the ‘India Invitational’. After all, in cricket’s theatre of dreams, even lopsided scripts need a hero’s comeback. Pakistan, the stage is yours… if you can find it.


(The writer is a senior journalist based in Mumbai. Views personal.)

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