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Divyaa Advaani 

2 November 2024 at 3:28:38 am

Why Growth Feels Lonely

Success has a strange way of changing the atmosphere around a person. The climb is crowded, competitive, and loud — but the higher you rise, the quieter it becomes. Many founders who once dreamed of hitting big revenues and building powerful teams are surprised to find that the peak feels more isolating than they ever imagined. They have stability, scale, and status — yet they carry responsibilities, decisions, and pressures that very few people around them can fully understand. And that...

Why Growth Feels Lonely

Success has a strange way of changing the atmosphere around a person. The climb is crowded, competitive, and loud — but the higher you rise, the quieter it becomes. Many founders who once dreamed of hitting big revenues and building powerful teams are surprised to find that the peak feels more isolating than they ever imagined. They have stability, scale, and status — yet they carry responsibilities, decisions, and pressures that very few people around them can fully understand. And that isolation doesn’t come from weakness; it comes from leadership. People stay close to successful individuals, but often with expectations — a favour, an introduction, an opportunity, some hidden benefit. Wealth and influence attract attention, but rarely authenticity. And for many business owners, especially those running companies upward of Rs 90 crores, this is where the silent disconnect begins. They are surrounded by people but starved of genuine connection. Yet beneath this loneliness lies a deeper, more strategic issue that most leaders never pause to consider: the brand they project externally no longer matches the identity they need internally. Their success is visible — deals, achievements, awards, numbers. But personal branding isn’t just about visibility. It is about emotional resonance, relational depth, and the quality of the people who enter your space because of who you are, not what you have built. Here’s the truth most high-performing founders overlook: loneliness at the top doesn’t come from success — it comes from the absence of aligned relationships. And that gap is bridged only when leaders intentionally shape their personal brand. When a founder’s personal brand becomes clear, something shifts. People begin to see the human behind the entrepreneur. They understand the leader’s values, personality, and intentions. The communication becomes more meaningful. Teams speak more openly. Partnerships become smoother. Even day-to-day interactions feel less transactional and more genuine. A well-aligned personal brand acts as an emotional filter — drawing in people who resonate with your energy and quietly distancing the ones who don’t. For business owners managing large-scale operations, the need today is not popularity. It is positioning. Presence. Influence. Trust. Because once your personal brand reflects depth, clarity, confidence, and relatability, you stop attracting people who want to take something from you — and start attracting people who want to contribute, collaborate, and grow alongside you. With the right personal brand, authority no longer has to come with isolation. Leadership becomes magnetic rather than demanding. Teams align faster. Networks strengthen naturally. And the circle around you evolves from being crowded to being meaningful. The irony is that most founders think their next stage of growth requires new strategies, new hires, or new markets. But often, what they actually need is a stronger sense of identity — one that the world can see, feel, and connect with. Because expansion doesn’t only happen in revenue charts; it happens in relationships, and relationships are built on perception. The clearer your identity, the stronger your influence. And the stronger your influence, the easier it becomes for people to trust you, align with you, and open doors that were previously inaccessible. So if the world around you has gotten quieter as you’ve risen higher, perhaps it is not a sign of distance — but a sign that it’s time to realign how people experience you. Not just as the owner of a successful business, but as a leader whose presence carries credibility, warmth, and clarity. Success is fulfilling, growth is exciting, but connection is what gives leadership its depth. And only a well-aligned personal brand can create the kind of connection that feels genuine, nourishing, and empowering. If you’ve reached a stage where your achievements speak loudly but your identity feels misunderstood or unseen, then it may be time to reshape the way the world perceives you. Not to impress, not to sell, but to finally be experienced in the way you truly intend to be. If this resonates with your journey, you’re welcome to reach out for a conversation here: https://sprect.com/pro/divyaaadvaani Not for introductions. Not for transactions. For alignment — and perhaps for the first step toward a personal brand that grows with you, not away from you. (The author is a personal branding expert. She has clients from 14+ countries. Views personal.)

The Unsung Hero of 1971: General Jacob and India’s Martial Supremacy

General Jacob

December 16, 1971, is a day that forever altered the course of South Asian history, marking the culmination of India’s triumph in the 1971 India-Pakistani war and the creation of Bangladesh. On this day, India achieved a victory that restored its martial confidence on the world stage as a formidable military power. At the heart of this victory was a moment of unparalleled significance: the surrender of 93,000 Pakistani soldiers in Dhaka, immortalized by the iconic photograph of Pakistani General A.A.K. Niazi handing his pistol to Indian Lieutenant General Jagjit Singh Aurora.


While the spotlight has often shone on the charismatic leadership of Field Marshal Sam Manekshaw and the figure of General Aurora, one crucial individual remains largely overlooked — General J.F.R. Jacob. The role played by Jacob, a man whose actions were instrumental in turning a strategic stalemate into a resounding victory, deserves greater recognition. Without his decisive actions and iron resolve, the humiliating defeat of Pakistan may never have come to pass, and the war could have concluded in an UN-brokered ceasefire, allowing Pakistan to avoid the full consequences of its defeat.


The irony is palpable. Just six years earlier, in the 1965 war, India found itself at the gates of Lahore, poised for a historic victory, only to be halted by international intervention. Pakistan, with its propaganda machine in overdrive, proclaimed a victory despite the fact that Indian forces were on the cusp of success. The celebrations in Pakistan on September 6 as their ‘Liberation Day’ only serve to underscore the false narrative of triumph.


But December 16 was different. That day, the surrender at the Ramna Race Course in Dhaka confirmed India’s unequivocal victory. In stark contrast to Pakistan’s manufactured claims of victory, the image of Niazi’s surrender to Aurora sent shockwaves through Pakistan, triggering riots as the population grappled with the reality of their humiliation. No amount of propaganda could rewrite the narrative captured in that photograph, which spoke volumes about India’s martial prowess. Today, India stands proudly at number four on the Global Firepower Index, a testament to its formidable military capabilities, an ascent that owes much to the confidence instilled in the armed forces by leaders like General Jacob.


In his memoirs, General Jacob recalls the dire situation in the Eastern Sector: with only 3,000 men 30 miles from Dhaka and Niazi commanding 26,400 inside, a UN-sponsored ceasefire threatened India’s gains. At this crucial moment, Manekshaw called, directing Jacob to go to Dhaka and secure the surrender.


Jacob’s resolve was unshaken, despite knowing that the glory of the surrender would likely go to his superior, General Aurora. He was determined to see this victory through, not just for the military but for the country’s pride and the international reputation of India. Jacob’s professionalism and selflessness stand as a shining example of Indian military leadership. While Manekshaw could have easily taken the surrender himself, he chose to let General Aurora, as the commander of the Eastern Command, claim that honour. Jacob, though aware that history would remember someone else, played a pivotal role in laying the groundwork for the surrender.


Upon reaching Dhaka, Jacob was met with resistance. Niazi and his commanders were prepared for a ceasefire, not a surrender. Jacob, alone and surrounded by hostile officers, remained calm under pressure. He demanded that Niazi read and sign the Instrument of Surrender, giving him 30 minutes to decide. Jacob’s words were blunt: if Niazi refused, he would have no choice but to hand over the Pakistani prisoners to the Mukti Bahini, a feared Bengali liberation force that had already reached Dhaka. Jacob knew that this was a gamble; despite his small force, he had to secure the surrender or risk losing everything.


Even after 30 minutes of tense silence, Jacob’s confidence never wavered. He entered Niazi’s office and, when he received no response to his request for a decision, he took the silence as an acceptance. His next move was decisive. “You will surrender in the open at the Ramna Race Course,” he told Niazi, further demanding that the Pakistani troops provide a guard of honour.


The surrender, when it finally took place at 4:30 PM was more than just a military victory—it was a moment of national pride for India. As 500,000 Bengalis cheered the arrival of a new nation, the humiliation of Pakistan was complete. The events of that day marked not just a military triumph but the birth of Bangladesh and a reaffirmation of India’s place as a rising power in the world.


General J.F.R. Jacob, though not widely remembered in the same breath as Manekshaw or Aurora, was the key to this victory. His strategic foresight, unwavering confidence, and deft handling of the surrender secured a victory that has echoed through the annals of history. The events of that momentous day remind us that military triumphs are not just about the battlefield but about leadership, timing and the courage to seize the moment. Today, as we commemorate Vijay Divas, let us remember General Jacob, the unsung hero whose actions ensured that India’s victory was not just military, but absolute.


(The author is a political commentator and a global affairs observer. Views personal.)

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