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Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

Unapologetically Hindi

Guyanese minister Vikash Ramkissoon’s calm defiance in Hindi turned a parliamentary slight into a lesson in power, memory and India’s farthest civilizational echo.

Some politicians raise their voices when challenged. Vikash Ramkissoon raised a language. In Guyana’s Parliament, where debate usually proceeds in the safe neutrality of English, an opposition lawmaker chose to question Ramkissoon’s knowledge of Hindi. The insinuation was familiar and faintly patronising, the sort meant to diminish without appearing overtly hostile. Ramkissoon’s reply, however, was neither angry nor theatrical. He asked the Speaker for permission to respond in Hindi—and then did so, fluently and without notes. Calmly, he challenged his opponent to name the subject, choose the venue, even take it to television, promising that the entire debate could be conducted in Hindi. “Vishey woh tay karein, main jawab dunga bina kagaz dekhey.”


While the Guyanese chamber fell silent, the internet did not. Within hours, the clip went viral, and Ramkissoon’s composure was widely cheered, particularly in India.


That composure is not incidental. It reflects a temperament shaped less by slogans than by systems. Before entering politics, Vikash Ramkissoon worked in banking, eventually managing a branch at Demerara Bank. The habits that he imbibed during his banking career - patience, caution and respect for facts - were on display in Parliament. Ramkissoon spoke evenly, refused to personalise the slight and allowed competence to do the work outrage usually performs.


His biography straddles continents. Educated in Delhi, where he studied commerce and finance, he encountered an India that was both aspirational and argumentative, confident in its inheritance yet impatient with its limits. Returning home, he trained in law at the University of Guyana, graduating with distinction.


Appointed a minister within the Ministry of Agriculture in September 2025, Ramkissoon’s brief is resolutely unglamorous: modernising and diversifying farming, strengthening food security and keeping agriculture relevant in a country newly transformed by oil wealth. Guyana’s petroleum discoveries have altered its economic trajectory and tempted policymakers to treat farming as legacy rather than strategy. Ramkissoon treats it as both. His earlier tenure as parliamentary secretary in the same ministry, particularly in the Essequibo Islands–West Demerara region, earned him a reputation for listening to farmers and translating policy into practice.


The Hindi exchange mattered precisely because it was unscripted. Guyana’s history gives it resonance. From the mid-19th century, indentured labourers from India were brought to work the colony’s sugar estates after the abolition of slavery. They arrived with little property but considerable memory. Over generations, those inheritances were reshaped by Caribbean life but never erased. English became the language of administration while Hindi remained a language of memory.


Few writers captured that condition more sharply than V. S. Naipaul, who chronicled the unease of Indo-Caribbean societies suspended between ancestral India and colonial modernity. One can only imagine how Ramkissoon’s Hindi in Parliament would have intrigued Naipaul.


Ramkissoon underscored that evolution when he accused the opposition of using ‘coded language’ to divide society. His response inverted the tactic. By speaking Hindi openly, he stripped the code of its power. Culture, he suggested, need not be whispered or weaponised. It can be stated plainly and then set aside.


The timing amplified the symbolism. India’s engagement with Guyana has deepened in recent years, capped by Narendra Modi’s visit to Georgetown in November 2024 the first by an Indian prime minister in more than half a century. Energy, healthcare, training and cultural exchange now form the scaffolding of a revived relationship, part of India’s broader Caribbean outreach.


For India, the episode invites a particular kind of pride. Its global presence is often measured in markets, military reach and multilateral forums. But its most durable export remains its civilisational confidence and the ability of language and culture to travel, adapt and endure. When a Caribbean legislator can summon Hindi not as nostalgia but as a pointed argument, it testifies to a reach deeper than strategy papers.


Ramkissoon’s confidence was not rehearsed bravado but the assurance of someone long accustomed to being underestimated.


He belongs to a generation of Indo-Guyanese leaders shaped not by the trauma of migration but by its aftermath, the descendants of indentured labourers for whom India is neither lost homeland nor political slogan, but an inherited presence. Identity, for them, is not something to be defended or disavowed, but a settled fact absorbed into public life rather than performed within it.


In an age when politics increasingly rewards performance over preparation, his reply offered a quieter lesson that history speaks through those who have learned to live with it.

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