top of page

By:

Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

A Fond Farewell to Cheteshwar Pujara

ree

In the fast-paced circus that is modern cricket, where sixes rain like confetti and strike rates are worshipped like golden calves, Cheteshwar Pujara was the serene monk in the corner, methodically building his innings like a Lego fortress—one brick at a time. Now, as of this week in 2025, with his retirement announcement still fresh, it’s time to reflect on a career that embodied resilience, even if it occasionally tested our patience. Pujara, the man who made “grinding it out” an art form, deserves our respect for anchoring India’s Test triumphs abroad. But let’s be honest—with a dash of humor—he also had moments where his bat seemed stuck in molasses, crumbling under the weight of expectations (and perhaps a few too many dot balls).

 

Pujara’s Test cricket journey, spanning 103 matches, is a testament to his unshakeable grit. Debuting in 2010 against Australia, he quickly established himself as the heir to Rahul Dravid’s “Wall” legacy. With 7,195 runs at an average of 43.60, including 19 centuries and 35 half-centuries, his numbers speak volumes. His highest score of 206* against England in 2012 was a masterclass in controlled aggression—or should I say, controlled restraint? He became one of the fastest to reach 1,000 Test runs, doing so in just 11 matches and 18 innings, earning the ICC Emerging Cricketer of the Year award in 2013. But it’s his overseas exploits that truly shine. In Australia’s 2018-19 series, Pujara scored a mammoth 521 runs across four Tests, facing 1,258 balls—the most by any visiting batsman in a four-Test series Down Under. His three centuries there were pivotal in India’s historic 2-1 victory, the first time an Asian team conquered the Aussies on their turf. Fast-forward to 2020-21, and despite injuries ravaging the squad, Pujara’s 271 runs, including a gritty 56 in the Brisbane fortress-breaker, helped seal another 2-1 win. He batted for an average of 124 minutes per innings, the third-longest among modern Indian batters, often wearing down bowlers like a persistent telemarketer. Respect where it’s due: without Pujara’s marathon efforts, like his 525-ball 202 against Australia in Ranchi 2017, India’s middle order might have collapsed faster than a house of cards in a gale.

 

Yet, for all his accomplishments, Pujara’s career wasn’t without its comedic tragedies—failures that, in hindsight, add a human touch to his stoic persona. His strike rate of around 44 often felt like watching paint dry on a humid day; snails could lap him on the pitch. Critics, including Ricky Ponting, lambasted innings like his laborious 50 in the 2021 Sydney Test, calling it one of the worst in recent memory. It built pressure on teammates, turning potential chases into nail-biters. And oh, the crumbling under pressure! Pujara had a knack for getting set—beautifully, agonizingly—only to fall to a “jaffa” just when the team needed acceleration. Remember the 2023 World Test Championship final against Australia? His twin failures (14 and 27) symbolized a broader batting collapse, leading to his scapegoating and axing from the West Indies tour. Sunil Gavaskar defended him fiercely, arguing he was unfairly blamed for others’ flops, but the truth stings: Pujara’s inability to adapt to quicker tempos or short-ball barrages haunted him. In England, where bounce is king, he averaged a modest 29 across series, often poking tentatively like a kid testing hot soup. Domestically, his IPL snubs—no bids in 2015 auctions—highlighted his mismatch with white-ball cricket; he played just 30 IPL games, scoring at a pedestrian 20 average. Failures like these, as Pujara himself admitted in interviews, can “haunt you,” leading him to tweak his stance for Australia tours. Humorously, it’s as if the cricket gods gifted him infinite patience but forgot the turbo button. Even his wife, in her recent book, credits herself for dragging him through slumps, proving that behind every great wall is a greater support system.

 

In my opinion, Pujara’s story is one of specialization in an era demanding versatility. He wasn’t flashy like Kohli or explosive like Pant, but his “Chesistance”—that cult-favorite term blending Che Guevara and resistance—symbolized old-school Test cricket. Dropped repeatedly post-2023 for younger guns, his exclusion felt like benching a reliable old Volvo for a flashy Ferrari that might crash. Yet, it’s respectful to acknowledge the game’s evolution; his slow play sometimes amplified team pressures, turning draws into losses. Still, no one in the current lineup replicates his anchor role, as a former teammate lamented during India’s recent New Zealand drubbing.


(The writer is a senior journalist based in Mumbai.)

Comments


bottom of page