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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Congress’ bête noire!

Updated: Oct 30, 2024

Prakash Ambedkar

He accuses Sharad Pawar of having met Dawood, he accuses Shiv Sena under Uddhav Thackeray of cheating the BJP and having secret meeting with Amit Shah in recent times, he accuses the Hindutva forces of inciting violence at Bhima Koregaon, and he is not afraid of sharing stage with leaders of Maoists front organizations. Yet, if one asks who is afraid of him the most, that political organization is indeed the Congress. Prakash Ambedkar, the grandson of Dr B R Ambedkar is the one single force that stands between the grand old party of India and its favourite vote-bank – the Dalits.


Born on May 10, 1954, Prakash Ambedkar is a lawyer, and a writer. He was Rajya Sabha MP between 1990 and 1996, and Lok Sabha MP from Akola in Vidarbha between 1998 and 2004. But, he is known more for various social movements that he had been supporting or initiating. He is also known for forming alliances of smaller Dalit parties to ensure it comes up as a major force in the state politics.


In 2019, he founded the Vanchit Bahujan Aghadi (VBA), a political party aimed at representing the interests of Dalits, Muslims, and other smaller marginalized communities. The VBA has gained significant traction in Maharashtra, particularly among those who feel excluded from the mainstream political discourse. The party’s primary objective is to address issues of social and economic inequality and to provide a platform for the voices of the underprivileged. But, it was seen as the vote cutter by the mainstream political parties like Congress, who always took Dalit votes for granted. They took the major brunt while recording its lowest numbers in the state assembly at 54.


While Ambedkar’s tenure in both houses of the Indian Parliament was marked by his unwavering commitment to social justice and equality, he is known for his strategic political organizing, often referred to as the “Akola Pattern.” This approach focuses on mobilizing support from various marginalized groups to create a unified front against social and economic injustices. The Akola Pattern has been instrumental in building a strong political base for the VBA in Maharashtra.


Among the various social movements and protests he supported or initiated, are mass rallies and demonstrations to address issues such as the Rohith Vemula suicide case, the demolition of Ambedkar Bhavan, and the Bhima Koregaon violence. In 2017, along with his son Sujat, Prakash Ambedkar relaunched “Prabuddh Bharat” (Enlightened India), a newspaper founded by Dr. B. R. Ambedkar in 1956. This initiative aims to continue the mission of spreading awareness about social justice and equality.

He often talks about next CM of Maharashtra coming from the VBA.

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