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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Dreaming the End: Peter Weir’s The Last Wave

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U.S. actor Richard Chamberlain, who passed away recently at 90, will forever be remembered as television’s dashing Dr. Kildare and his performance as the shipwrecked sailor in the grand 1980 television miniseries of James Clavell’s epic novel ‘Shogun.’


But his most haunting and revelatory turn may well have been in Peter Weir’s The Last Wave (1977), a film that defies genre and easy classification. An eerie ecological thriller, an existential meditation on fate, and a supernatural legal drama woven into the lore of Australia’s Aboriginal Dreamtime, the film pulses with an apocalyptic foreboding that feels as relevant now as it did nearly fifty years ago.


Chamberlain plays David Burton, a Sydney-based lawyer who is drawn into a world of mystery and mysticism when he is assigned to defend a group of Aboriginal men accused of murder. The crime itself is a murky affair - one man dead under inexplicable circumstances after a torrential downpour in an urban alleyway. As Burton delves deeper, he begins experiencing unsettling visions: cryptic symbols, strange figures appearing in water and a mounting sense that his comfortable reality is but a thin veneer over something ancient and unrelenting.


From its opening sequence - images of an ominous storm rolling across an unforgiving Australian landscape - Weir sets the tone for a film that is both dreamlike and deeply disquieting. The film shares a kindred spirit with Picnic at Hanging Rock (1975), another of Weir’s enigmatic early masterpieces, where nature exerts a strange and unexplained power over the characters. If Picnic suggested a kind of malevolent void at the heart of the landscape, The Last Wave takes this a step further, insinuating that the land remembers, that it holds secrets modern Australia has ignored at its own peril.


The film is less concerned with the mechanics of legal drama and more with the inexorable pull of the unknown. As Burton, Chamberlain is all quiet repression, a man whose neatly ordered life, his prestigious legal career, his well-appointed home methodically dismantled by the forces closing in around him. He is not just investigating a case but being initiated into a deeper understanding of time, prophecy, and the cyclical destruction that has marked the land for centuries.


David Gulpilil, the great Aboriginal actor whose presence alone evokes something timeless and mysterious, plays Chris, one of the defendants who becomes Burton’s guide into this otherworldly realm.


The film thrives on ambiguity. It does not spoon-feed explanations, nor does it indulge in reductive binaries of Western rationality versus Indigenous mysticism. Instead, it presents a world in which multiple truths exist at once, where history is not linear but layered and where symbols carry meanings beyond the grasp of those who refuse to see. The Dreamtime, so central to Aboriginal cosmology, is not just a set of myths but a living, breathing continuum.


The cinematography by Russell Boyd bathes Sydney in an unearthly light. The city feels both familiar and otherworldly. The film’s use of water - torrential rains, leaking pipes, subterranean pools - reinforces the sense of an impending deluge, a reckoning long foretold. There is an eerie electronic score by Charles Wain which amplifies the tension.


If there is a single moment that encapsulates The Last Wave’s spellbinding effect, it is the final sequence. Burton, finally grasping the enormity of what he has uncovered, stands on a desolate beach, staring out at an ocean that seems to stretch beyond time itself. What he sees, or believes he sees, remains unspoken, left for the audience to decipher. Is it the beginning of a new age, or the end of the world?


Weir, who would go on to direct Gallipoli (1981), Witness (1985) and The Truman Show (1998), has always been a filmmaker attuned to the unseen forces shaping human lives.


But The Last Wave remains one of his most unsettling works. Chamberlain, so often remembered as a leading man of refined poise, here delivers a performance of quiet devastation.


As climate disasters intensify and ancient knowledge is increasingly ignored in favour of short-term convenience, The Last Wave feels eerily prescient. Its apocalyptic overtones are no longer just a product of Weir’s cinematic imagination but a warning that echoes louder with each passing storm. Perhaps we, too, are standing on the shore, staring at something vast and unfathomable, waiting for the wave to break.

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