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By:

Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

Idealism to Pragmatism: India’s Assertive Diplomatic Rebirth

Diplomatic Rebirth

In 1949, when India became one of the first non-Communist nations to recognize the People’s Republic of China, it marked the beginning of a policy trajectory defined by a heady idealism and a belief in non-alignment. Jawaharlal Nehru’s foreign policy, shaped by a deep conviction in moral diplomacy, was largely conducted in an insular manner, with decisions confined to a select few—Nehru himself, his confidant V.K. Krishna Menon, and a handful of close advisers. The result was often a rigid and centralized decision-making apparatus, ill-equipped to foresee the complexities of global realpolitik. Today, India’s diplomacy has transformed into a pragmatic and assertive machine, markedly different from its formative years.


The recent ‘resolution’ of a four-year military standoff with China, announced by Indian External Affairs Minister S. Jaishankar, underscores this new face of Indian diplomacy. The disengagement at the contentious border, negotiated after years of high-altitude tensions, reflects how Indian diplomacy has evolved from post-colonial idealism to strategic pragmatism. Nehru’s rush to recognize Communist China in 1949, spurred by a mix of Asian solidarity and anti-colonial zeal, stands in stark contrast to today’s careful calibration of Sino-Indian relations.


The roots of this transformation can be traced back to the 1962 Sino-Indian war. India’s humiliating defeat punctured Nehruvian idealism, exposing the perils of relying on personal diplomacy and moral posturing in a world driven by hard interests. A.S. Bhasin, in his meticulously documented book, ‘Nehru, China and Tibet’ (2021) has shown how Nehru’s policy toward China was irresponsible and marked by miscalculation—a product of both misplaced trust and an overestimation of India’s diplomatic leverage. The post-Nehru era witnessed a gradual but decisive shift toward pragmatism, a trend accelerated by successive governments’ recognition of the need for a multipolar world.


Indira Gandhi, although inheriting Nehru’s non-aligned legacy, departed from his methods. The 1971 Bangladesh Liberation War was a watershed moment for Indian diplomacy. Rather than relying on high-minded appeals to international morality, India under Indira forged a tactical alliance with the Soviet Union to counterbalance Pakistan’s US-backed military regime. Her administration demonstrated that Indian diplomacy could be both strategic and assertive, shaping events rather than being shaped by them. The nuclear tests of 1974, despite global outcry, further underscored India’s growing willingness to act in its perceived national interest, regardless of external pressures.


This pragmatism continued under Prime Ministers such as Atal Bihari Vajpayee, who in 1998 ordered a series of nuclear tests that declared India’s arrival as a nuclear power. India’s nuclear diplomacy, while defiant, was carefully managed to prevent isolation, with New Delhi swiftly engaging in talks with the United States to avoid sanctions.


The 21st century has seen an even greater shift in India’s foreign policy machinery. India’s diplomacy under the Modi government today is more institutionalized, involving a wide array of actors—from career diplomats to military strategists and economic policymakers. In S. Jaishankar, the Ministry of External Affairs (MEA) has transformed into a dynamic force capable of robust negotiations with great powers like the US and China but also with countries in the European Union, Canada and smaller nations in Africa, Latin America, and Southeast Asia. India’s approach to China has matured, moving from a reactive stance to one that seeks to manage competition through calibrated engagements, while securing India’s interests in multilateral forums such as BRICS and the Shanghai Cooperation Organisation.


Nowhere is India’s assertiveness more visible than in its stance on the Indo-Pacific. Unlike Nehru’s aloofness to the idea of military alliances, today’s India is an enthusiastic participant in the Quadrilateral Security Dialogue (Quad), alongside the US, Japan, and Australia. This marks a radical departure from the cautious diplomacy of the Cold War era. This assertiveness has become a cornerstone of India’s foreign policy, positioning it as a key player in regional security.


The 2020 Galwan clash—where 20 Indian soldiers lost their lives in brutal hand-to-hand combat—was a stark reminder of the unresolved tensions that linger along the Sino-Indian border. But India responded by strengthening military ties with the United States and deepening strategic relations with Australia, Japan, and Vietnam. As seen in the ongoing border talks with China, Indian diplomacy now balances confrontation with engagement, no longer constrained by the Nehruvian dogma of ‘Hindi-Chini bhai-bhai.’


Today, the ‘Jaishankar doctrine’ emphasizes transactional diplomacy — India’s ties with the US are driven by technological and defense cooperation, while its relationship with Russia is framed by energy security and geopolitical convenience. New Delhi’s stance in recent negotiations at the World Trade Organization, as well as its firm position in rejecting the Regional Comprehensive Economic Partnership (RCEP), demonstrate a willingness to protect its interests even at the risk of alienating powerful trading partners like China.


Indian diplomacy has evolved from the inward-looking, idealistic policies of Nehru’s era to a more outward-facing, pragmatic, and assertive approach. This transformation is emblematic of a country that has grown confident in its global role, no longer bound by the insecurities of its early post-colonial years.

1 Comment


M D Malve
M D Malve
Nov 07, 2024

This shift wasn't sudden. It gradually developed to find its resolute and assertive expression in S.J. Quite insightful retrospect on changing tenor of India's foreign policy.

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