Screens and Scream Time
- Kranti Patil
- May 30
- 3 min read
In an age of digital overload, the real test of parenting may be in resisting the siren call of screens by beginning with the parents themselves.

In living rooms across the world, a quiet epidemic is unfolding. Children, some barely able to walk, are being lulled into silence with the glow of a screen. Mobile phones, tablets and televisions have become the modern babysitters as they are convenient, effective and disturbingly addictive. But as the hours spent in front of these devices creep ever upwards, so too do the costs: attention spans dwindle, tempers flare, sleep cycles disintegrate and a generation grows up more digitally engaged than emotionally connected.
The world of parenting has always required a blend of instinct, structure and love. In today’s digital age, it demands something more: restraint. It is no longer enough to simply admonish children to “cut down screen time.” They are astute observers, and their first classroom is their parents. A mother scrolling through social media at the dinner table or a father glued to YouTube before bed sends an unspoken yet potent message that this is normal, acceptable or even aspirational. The change, therefore, must begin not with the child, but with the adult.
To reverse the rising tide of screen addiction, parents must lead by quiet example. This involves conscious decisions: to avoid screens in the child’s presence, to designate tech-free zones in the home, and to clearly differentiate work-related screen use from casual scrolling. A simple statement - “This is my office work” - may seem trivial, but it establishes boundaries. It teaches a critical lesson that screens are tools and not toys.
School, while crucial in shaping behaviour, is not the panacea. Children spend only four to six hours in classrooms; the rest of the day is governed by the home. If parents do not reinforce the values being taught at school, the lessons are diluted. Worse, they may be discarded altogether. The responsibility of shaping a child, therefore, lies equally between educators and parents. Neither can afford to abdicate their role.
The temptation to hand over a phone or tablet during a tantrum is strong, especially when the alternative is a messy, unpredictable outdoor game or a long, meandering conversation about dinosaurs. But real development is not tidy. It involves scraped knees, failed attempts and long questions with no easy answers. Children thrive not when they are pacified, but when they are engaged. Telling stories, playing outside, painting, crafting are not just pastimes, but investments in emotional and cognitive resilience.
There is also a more sinister side to early digital exposure. Research increasingly shows that excessive screen time correlates with poor concentration, difficulty in learning, and behavioural issues. Parents may mistake a toddler’s ability to swipe and tap as intelligence. In reality, it may be the first symptom of a dependency. One such case, recounted by a parent associated with an NGO where I was working, is cautionary. Their son, exposed to mobile phones since infancy, eventually needed the device to fall asleep, often hiding it under his pillow, waking up in the night to binge-watch videos. Initially hailed as ‘smart,’ the boy later struggled with academics, sleep and emotional regulation. Only when the habit became unmanageable did the family reckon with the consequences.
To be clear, the issue is not technology itself, but the unchecked immersion into it. Screens are not inherently evil. Used judiciously, they can educate, entertain, and even enrich. But for children, whose neurological and emotional foundations are still forming, unlimited access is toxic. They need unstructured play, human interaction and boredom. Yes, you heard right: boredom. For that is the fertile ground from which imagination and problem-solving emerge.
What, then, is the way forward? Not draconian bans, but a thoughtful balance. Children will grow up in a world that is more digital than ever before. But to meet it with clarity and resilience, they need anchors in form of parents who are present. They need routines that nurture them.
This is no longer just a parenting preference anymore but a public health imperative. The earlier we begin, the better. As with most things in childhood, timing matters.
Let the first step begin not with the child’s screen but with the parent’s.
(The writer is a Pune-based psychologist. Views personal.)
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