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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Shattered Glass Ceiling: The Fall of Chanda Kochhar

Once a beacon of ambition and integrity, India’s banking and corporate icon stands accused of betraying the very values she championed.

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When a titan of industry stumbles, the shockwaves rarely remain confined to boardrooms or quarterly reports. They shake the fragile faith in the institutions that underpin markets, governance and social progress. In India, few corporate downfalls have stirred as much public interest as the precipitous fall of Chanda Kochhar, the former chief executive of ICICI Bank. Her story is not merely about alleged wrongdoing but about the unravelling of a narrative that once inspired millions, especially women aspiring to break corporate glass ceilings.


In a recent ruling, India’s appellate tribunal held Kochhar culpable of receiving an illicit Rs. 64-crore payment in connection with a Rs. 300-crore loan granted to the Videocon Group in 2009. Though the wheels of justice continue to turn (with investigations by the Central Bureau of Investigation (CBI) and the Enforcement Directorate (ED) still underway), the tribunal’s finding punctures the myth of meritocracy and moral uprightness that she once symbolised.


Rising Star

Chanda Kochhar’s ascent was emblematic of a new India. She rose through the ranks of ICICI Bank at a time when few women dared to envision themselves at the apex of the financial world. Mentored by K.V. Kamath, ICICI’s legendary architect, Kochhar was widely seen as the face of a modern, professional India—competent, confident, and impeccably polished. Draped in elegant saris, her presence at global financial summits exuded a rare mix of traditional grace and corporate authority.


Her achievements were many. Under her leadership, ICICI Bank expanded aggressively, embracing retail banking and digital innovation. In 2011, the government recognised her with the Padma Bhushan, one of India’s highest civilian awards, a nod to her contribution to banking and her role as a trailblazer for women. She was not merely a banker; she was a symbol of aspiration, a rare role model in a largely patriarchal industry.


Her public image was pristine. She often spoke of values, of integrity, of the need to empower the next generation to believe in hard work and ethical decision-making. In a widely circulated letter to her daughter, Kochhar extolled the virtues of honesty and the perils of shortcuts—a touching, personal testament that seemed to reinforce her public persona.


Perilous Descent

Yet, power has an insidious tendency to distort self-perception. The 2009 Videocon loan decision, now under a harsh spotlight, proved to be her undoing. The stark allegation is that she steered the loan towards a group with whom her husband had personal business links, and in return, she allegedly received kickbacks. The Rs. 64-crore payment raises uncomfortable questions of conflict of interest, corporate governance and regulatory oversight.


The tribunal’s judgment has not only confirmed suspicions but intensified public disillusionment. For many Indians, it is not merely about the legal technicalities of the case but about what it says of the moral fibre of corporate India. The irony is bitter as a woman whose rise was celebrated for shattering barriers is now being scrutinised for succumbing to the very temptations she cautioned against.


Ethics in Corporate India

In theory, corporate leadership is built on more than financial acumen; it is built on trust. Boards are supposed to act as gatekeepers of integrity. Regulators are meant to enforce stringent standards. Yet the Kochhar episode reveals systemic fragilities. India’s corporate scandals, unlike Japan’s dramatic bowing executives or South Korea’s public atonements, often get buried under layers of legalese and PR damage control. The culture, critics argue, too readily accepts that impropriety can be reduced to a technical glitch.


This case also exposes a gendered dimension that makes the scandal even more disquieting. Kochhar was not just any executive; she was a rare female leader in a male-dominated industry. Her achievements were held up as proof that women could lead with both competence and character. Her downfall, if left unexamined, risks reinforcing regressive stereotypes: that women leaders are more vulnerable to ethical lapses, or worse, that their failures validate patriarchal scepticism about their capability.


Contrast Kochhar with her global peers. Arundhati Bhattacharya, former chair of State Bank of India, navigated challenges without scandal. Jane Fraser of Citigroup, and Leena Nair of Chanel, have proved that leadership and integrity can coexist. Their examples, largely untarnished, suggest that individual failure must not slow the collective drive for greater diversity in corporate boardrooms.


Slippery Slope

This raises a burning question as to why do some leaders gamble away decades of reputation? Psychologists describe the ‘hubris syndrome,’ wherein prolonged power leads to a dangerous sense of invincibility. Small compromises, once justified, keep on accumulating until a major transgression becomes inevitable. The ‘slippery slope’ theory explains how moral boundaries blur when initial decisions are rationalised away.


Globally, this pattern plays out in tragic, almost archetypal ways. Bernie Madoff’s Ponzi scheme in the U.S., Carlos Ghosn’s fall from grace in Japan and the collapse of Enron all tell the same story of brilliance turned blind. Madoff, once a respected financier, orchestrated the largest fraud in Wall Street history, betraying clients and investors who trusted his reputation. Ghosn, lauded for turning around Nissan, was later accused of underreporting his earnings and misusing company assets. Ken Lay, the architect of Enron’s rise, presided over a corporate culture that prioritized aggressive accounting tricks until it spectacularly imploded.


Kochhar’s case fits this narrative. She will join this infamous roll call of executives trapped in their own mythos.


Yet it is not merely a question of individual failure. The scandal prompts a far more important question: are Indian boards equipped to detect conflicts of interest, especially at the very top? Have family connections, political clout and personal ambition been allowed to infect decision-making processes in high-stakes lending? The answer seems to suggest a troubling complacency.


True reform will not spring from compliance checklists or tighter regulatory frameworks alone. It requires a shift in corporate culture. Whistleblowers must be protected, not ostracised. Transparency must be valued, not feared. Ethics should cease to be a mere footnote in corporate governance and become the foundation on which business is conducted.


In banking, where trust is as valuable as capital, a reputation is like fine crystal. A single crack, however small, risks shattering decades of polish. The Kochhar scandal, more than most, exposes this brittle reality.


For the young professionals who once looked up to Kochhar, especially women, the scandal is deeply personal. It chips away at hope. If the narrative of merit and hard work is undermined by greed and nepotism, what remains? A cynicism that shortcuts are inevitable, even necessary. Her apology, if it comes, cannot be confined to the letter to her daughter or a statement to regulators. It must reach millions of aspirants who once saw in her a symbol of possibility. A contrite confession, stripped of evasions, can be the only fitting penance.


Far more than a headline, the Kochar saga is a wake-up call to India’s corporate sector. It can either choose to learn from this debacle and reinforce ethical standards, or it can continue its descent into transactional leadership where power serves personal interests.


The lesson is clear: power without principle is a time bomb waiting to explode.


(The writer is a retired banker based in Bengaluru. Views personal.)

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