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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

The Hidden Trap of Growing Too Smoothly

Part 1: Success ≠ Sustainability Series

 

Smooth operations can feel like success … but they often hide a slow freeze. 

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Do you know what’s amusing about Indian businesses? We dream of order and chase stability. And when the chaos finally settles, when the team is working, customers are happy, and processes are humming, we do something dangerous; we stop moving.


It’s not failure that holds us back, but comfort. That quiet sense of “everything’s fine” becomes the trap. It’s a story playing out across growing teams, especially in SMEs, where progress pauses the moment things begin to run smoothly.


Because when success first arrives, it doesn’t knock; it whispers, "Don’t change anything. It’s working."

 

Cement where there was clay

Every founder, senior manager, or team lead has lived through early chaos‒delivery dates missed, staff improvising, and spreadsheets that run the business. Every new system brings relief. But systems are like clay; they’re meant to be shaped as things evolve.


The real danger is they often turn to cement. That onboarding checklist you built in 2022? It’s still being used today, even though your team size has doubled and your customers look nothing like they did then.


That workflow between sales and ops? It made sense when you had 5 reps. Now you have 15 … And yet, it’s sacred. What once felt like clarity slowly becomes rigidity.

 

A story from the middle

Last year, I met a third-generation manufacturing business in Nagpur. Their packaging division had scaled fast post-COVID, thanks to a new B2B channel. They’d invested in software, hired mid-managers, and even set up a cross-functional task force.


Things ran like a machine until they didn’t.

Newer product lines had longer lead times. One customer brought in custom SKUs. And suddenly, the smooth system cracked:

  • Orders were fulfilled late.

  • Team leaders avoided escalation.

  • Everyone assumed someone else was fixing the glitch.


The culprit wasn’t laziness or bad tech; it was the belief that "our system works" and that "this isn’t chaos; rather, it’s just a bad month." But really, they were experiencing what I call the cement trap when yesterday’s systems become today’s blind spots.

 

Why this happens so often

In Indian SMEs, loyalty and jugaad often make up for a lack of structure in the early stages. But once things click, a kind of reverence sets in:

  • "This workflow saved us during GST chaos."

  • ·  "This format was built by my most trusted guy."

  • "This vendor list has served us since 2018."


So we hesitate to update, or worse, we pretend not to see the cracks. But scale, like nature, needs pruning. Left untouched, even the best-designed processes start to decay. And because these systems don’t collapse overnight, we delay. Until one day, the thing that brought us stability becomes the thing holding us back.

 

A quick self-check

Whether you’re a founder, a CXO, or just the person who “keeps things running”, ask yourself:

  • What’s a system you haven’t touched in 12 months?

  • Where are team members following the process but silently suffering?

  • Which ‘saviour tool’ is now making everyone’s job harder?


If you end up with “we’ll revisit it after the next quarter”, you’re in cement territory.

 

The invisible system behind the system

There’s one idea we’ve seen again and again in our work with growing Indian businesses:


Every smooth system creates an invisible meta-system – a set of unspoken habits, assumptions, and silences that sit beneath the surface.


We call this the Fallback Loop. It happens when people stop evolving a system because it once saved them. Instead of updating it, they just work around it. Or worse, protect it. The team doesn’t push back, the founder doesn’t re-question, and new hires inherit but never challenge. And suddenly, the loop is locked.

 

So what’s the antidote?

You don’t need to break everything; you just need to breathe life back into your systems.

Here’s how:

  • Schedule success reviews, not just failure retros.

  • Time-box each system’s expiry: "Let’s assume this SOP lasts 6 months."

  • Nominate a rotating sceptic … someone to question the sacred cows every quarter


Most importantly, make it cultural. In healthy teams, improvement isn’t a fix. It’s a ritual.


Remember, success is not the end of chaos. Sometimes, it’s the beginning of complacency.


(The author is a co-founder at PPS Consulting. He is a business transformation consultant. He could be reached at rahul@ppsconsulting.biz.)

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