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Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

The Inner Voice of a Silenced Queen

Pratibha Ray restores Draupadi’s voice, placing her inner life at the centre of the epic.

Yajnaseni: The Story of Draupadi by Pratibha Ray is a striking work of literary reimagining. First published in Odia in 1984 and later translated into English, the novel revisits one of India’s most complex figures in mythology through a deeply personal lens.


A recipient of major honours such as the Moortidevi and Sarala Awards, Ray retells the Mahabharata not as a grand epic of heroic men but as an intimate narrative of a woman whose voice has long been silenced. The novel brings Draupadi’s inner life to the centre of the story.


Yajnaseni thus emerges as a feminist revisioning of the epic. Where Vyasa’s narrative presents Draupadi largely through male speech and action, Ray restores her narrative authority, positioning her as subject rather than object.


Draupadi is given space to think, feel, question, and critique the forces that shaped her destiny. The novel’s epistolary form—a long letter to Lord Krishna written in her final hours at the foothills of the Himalayas—is not merely a stylistic choice but a means of laying bare her inner world.


Through these letters, Draupadi reveals her inner conflicts, emotional resilience, and intellectual depth. No longer a distant mythic figure, she emerges as fully human, grappling with questions of agency, dignity, love, loss, duty, and identity.


Her voice is marked by clarity and candour. When she recalls Yudhishthira’s words during the Pandavas’ final journey—“Do not turn back to look! Come forward!”—they become a symbol of existential betrayal, signalling a refusal to acknowledge her suffering by those who owed her their lives.


In anguish, she asks why she must endure “the whole world’s mockery, sneers, innuendos, abuse, scorn and slander.” The question reflects her acute awareness of the unrecognised emotional and moral labour demanded of women in cultures that prize self-sacrifice yet offer little compassion.


This inner voice also carries a sharp social critique. Draupadi’s marriage to the five Pandava brothers—one of the epic’s most contentious episodes—is presented not as destiny but as a violation of consent and autonomy. Ray makes explicit what the traditional text only implies: Draupadi had no real choice, and polyandry, far from ennobling her, exposed her to enduring social scorn.


In questioning Lord Krishna—“Did I have no say?” and “Was I man’s movable or immovable property?” —Draupadi exposes how patriarchal dharma enforces wifely submission at the cost of personal will and dignity.


This aspect of her inner voice lies at the heart of the novel’s power. Ray refuses to romanticise Draupadi’s suffering, portraying her anger, alienation, and resentment as both legitimate and necessary, and replacing the ideal of the self-sacrificing woman with a figure who challenges rigid cultural norms.


Ray’s Draupadi is not merely reactive but reflective and intellectually engaged. She repeatedly interrogates the moral frameworks used to justify her humiliation. Why should dharma excuse injustice? Why must loyalty to others override her own aspirations? These questions form the core of her inner life, not rhetorical ornament.


By placing Draupadi’s internal monologue at the centre of the narrative, Ray bridges ancient and contemporary debates on gender, identity, and autonomy. Speaking to Krishna, Draupadi reflects not only on past betrayals but also on the meaning of womanhood in a world shaped by male authority. This act of reclamation resonates with modern feminist thought, positioning her voice within wider struggles for self-definition.


The significance of Yajnaseni extends beyond literary innovation. As Draupadi questions and critiques the norms of her time, Ray invites readers to confront enduring cultural patterns, with her inner voice reflecting society’s unresolved tensions around gender, power, and moral hypocrisy.


Her reflections on humiliation, loyalty, justice, and dignity challenge not only the epic’s characters but also its readers, prompting a re-examination of values that continue to shape gender relations. In this way, the novel speaks as forcefully to the present as it does to the past.


Ray’s Draupadi refuses to be reduced to a passive symbol of virtue or victimhood. She embodies a balance of strength and vulnerability—loving Krishna, respecting her husbands, yet questioning them with intellectual resolve. Her emotional journey is one of self-assertion rather than endurance, giving the novel lasting relevance in contemporary discussions of women’s agency.


Yajnaseni is thus more than a retelling of an ancient epic. It is a powerful act of reclaiming silenced voices and reworking cultural memory. Through Draupadi’s inner voice, Ray reveals the psychological and emotional depths of a heroine who has long been overshadowed by male-centred narratives.


Speaking with intelligence, passion, and moral urgency, Ray’s Draupadi makes the novel both an intimate meditation and a forceful social critique. In an age that increasingly challenges monolithic histories and foregrounds marginalised voices, Yajnaseni stands as a vital work—one that reminds us how inherited stories shape our present and affirm women’s enduring struggle for dignity, autonomy, and the right to speak.


(The writer is an assistant professor of English literature. Views personal.)

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