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C.S. Krishnamurthy

21 June 2025 at 2:15:51 pm

Parents Before Property

The Bombay High Court’s recent decision upholding the cancellation of a gift deed executed by elderly parents in favour of their son is more than a legal victory. It is a timely reminder that parenthood cannot be reduced to a property transaction. By affirming that parents may revoke a property transfer when children fail to honour their obligation of care and support, the Court has reinforced a principle that is both legal and moral. The verdict in the Ashwin Ramesh Soni v. Ramesh Bachaulal...

Parents Before Property

The Bombay High Court’s recent decision upholding the cancellation of a gift deed executed by elderly parents in favour of their son is more than a legal victory. It is a timely reminder that parenthood cannot be reduced to a property transaction. By affirming that parents may revoke a property transfer when children fail to honour their obligation of care and support, the Court has reinforced a principle that is both legal and moral. The verdict in the Ashwin Ramesh Soni v. Ramesh Bachaulal Soni & Ors., reinforces the objective of the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007. The Court recognised that when parents transfer property with the legitimate expectation of being cared for, and that expectation is wilfully defeated, the law can restore justice. A gift founded on trust cannot survive when that trust is fundamentally breached. The judgement raises uncomfortable questions. What does it say about society when ageing parents must seek justice against their own children? Why should those who devoted a lifetime to raising families spend their twilight years proving that they deserve dignity? Have we begun to mistake inheritance for entitlement and affection for convenience? Changing Times These are not merely legal questions. They reflect the changing character of Indian families. India takes pride in its tradition of strong family bonds. Close-knit families, cherished traditions and an enduring culture of honouring parents have long defined our collective identity. Such images have long symbolised the country’s cultural strength. But growing reports of elder abuse present a sobering reality. Many parents experience neglect, emotional humiliation or isolation within homes they built. Some are confined to a single room after transferring property. Others are abandoned altogether. The emotional trauma often outweighs the financial loss. The ruling recognises what may be called an unwritten family contract. Parents spend decades sacrificing personal comforts to educate children, fund their ambitions, conduct weddings and build family assets. In return, they expect not luxury but companionship, care, respect and emotional security. By acknowledging that certain family transactions rest on mutual trust rather than legal formalities alone, the Court has reaffirmed that the law will protect vulnerable senior citizens when that trust is exploited. Reports frequently describe retired parents evicted from homes gifted to children, widowed mothers fighting prolonged legal battles for shelter, and elderly couples seeking police protection against their own offspring. Many such cases remain hidden because families fear social stigma more than personal suffering. Family Trust The Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007 was enacted precisely because traditional family safeguards were proving inadequate. Section 23 empowers authorities to declare property transfers void when they are made on the understanding that the recipient will provide for the transferor's basic needs, but subsequently fails to do so. The verdict has given practical meaning to this safeguard by making it clear that the law will not remain a silent spectator when trust is betrayed. Some critics argue that legal intervention weakens family relationships. The opposite is true. Good laws exist not because every family fails but because some do. Just as traffic laws protect responsible drivers from reckless ones, laws safeguarding parents protect families from exploitation without diminishing genuine affection. But society also has responsibilities. Financial advisers should caution senior citizens against transferring valuable assets prematurely. In many situations, a well-drafted will offers greater protection than an outright gift deed. Where property is transferred during one's lifetime, expectations regarding care and maintenance should be clearly documented to minimise future disputes. Children should remember that caring for ageing parents is not charity. It is gratitude expressed through everyday actions. I recall meeting an elderly gentleman at a bank several years ago. He proudly showed me documents transferring his house to his only son and remarked with complete confidence, “Now I have no worries. My son will take care of everything.” His face reflected absolute trust. Thankfully, countless children justify such trust every day. But when that faith is broken, the emotional consequences can be devastating. Indian culture has long viewed caring for parents as a privilege, not a burden. Honouring parents goes beyond living together. A caring phone call, a visit during illness, financial support or shared moments can bring comfort, dignity and belonging. Loneliness often wounds seniors more deeply than disease. When parents must approach courts for protection from their own children, it is time for society to introspect. (The writer is a retired banker and author. He can be reached at krs1957@hotmail.com. Views personal.)

What Keeps Long-Term Marriages Alive

Strong marriages are not perfect; they are continuously nurtured.

Marriage often begins with excitement, attraction, deep conversations, and effort. In the early years, even small moments — a smile, a phone call, or a walk together — feel special.


But as years pass, many marriages lose that warmth. Responsibilities grow, conversations shorten, and romance becomes routine. This does not always mean love has disappeared. Often, the relationship has stopped being nurtured.


Marriages rarely fade overnight. They weaken gradually through stress, silence, routine, ego, emotional distance, and lack of effort. Yet relationships can remain meaningful for decades when both people continue investing emotionally in each other.


Why Marriages Fade

Routine Replaces Romance: As life becomes busier with work, children, finances, and responsibilities, many couples slowly shift from lovers to managers of life. Conversations revolve around bills and schedules as emotional connection fades. Over time, couples can begin to feel like strangers living under the same roof.


Communication Weakens: Poor communication is one of the biggest reasons marriages fade. Conversations become functional rather than emotional, focused on responsibilities instead of feelings. Hurt and emotional needs remain unspoken, creating emotional distance and loneliness.


Taking Each Other for Granted: In the early stages of love, people appreciate small efforts and gestures. But over time, appreciation fades, and acts of care begin to feel like duties. When people stop feeling valued, emotional connection weakens.


Stress and Financial Pressure: Long working hours, financial burdens, parenting responsibilities, and social pressures can leave people emotionally drained. Stress can make people irritable, emotionally unavailable, and detached. Couples can slowly become each other’s outlet for frustration rather than comfort.


Ego and Unresolved Conflicts: Small unresolved issues can slowly grow into emotional walls. Some couples stop apologising, while others keep score over sacrifices and misunderstandings. When proving a point becomes more important than protecting the relationship, emotional intimacy suffers.


Lack of Emotional Intimacy: Physical presence alone is not enough for a healthy marriage. Strong relationships need emotional safety, affection, and honest communication. Without emotional intimacy, romance weakens, trust declines, and loneliness grows.


Unrealistic Expectations: Movies and social media often create unrealistic ideas about marriage, leading people to expect constant romance and perfect understanding. But real marriages involve imperfections, disagreements, and difficult phases. Strong marriages are not perfect — they are resilient.


Keeping Marriage Alive

Never Stop Dating Each Other: One of the biggest mistakes couples make is believing romance belongs only to the early years. Marriage needs continuous effort and emotional connection. Simple moments like walking together, laughing, holding hands, giving compliments, or remembering important dates help keep affection alive. Love survives through small, consistent efforts rather than grand gestures.


Communicate Deeply and Honestly: Healthy communication is essential for a strong relationship. Couples should talk not only about responsibilities, but also about feelings, fears, stress, dreams, and disappointments. Listening often matters more than offering solutions.


Appreciate Each Other Daily: Gratitude strengthens emotional bonds. Simple words like “thank you” or “I appreciate you” can make a partner feel valued and respected. Appreciation helps prevent emotional distance over time.


Keep Growing Together: Couples who continue growing together often stay emotionally connected longer. Shared experiences like travel, hobbies, fitness, reading, or personal goals can bring fresh energy into a relationship. Growth keeps relationships meaningful, while stagnation weakens connections.


Protect Physical and Emotional Intimacy: Intimacy is not only physical. It also includes affection, emotional openness, warmth, and emotional safety. Simple gestures like hugging, holding hands, or smiling can strengthen connections.


Learn to Resolve Conflicts Maturely: Arguments are normal, but disrespect should never become normal. Healthy couples focus on solving problems rather than attacking each other. Understanding each other often matters more than proving who is right.


Give Space Without Growing Distant: Healthy marriages require a balance between togetherness and individuality. Each person still needs personal growth, friendships, rest, and mental space.


(The writer is a tutor based in Thane.)

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