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By:

Asha Tripathi

14 April 2025 at 1:35:28 pm

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along...

Stop Comparing, Start Growing

Success does not grow in comparison; it grows in focus. Over the years, women have made significant strides in every sphere of life. From managing homes to leading organisations, from nurturing families to building successful careers, women have proved that strength and resilience are deeply rooted in their nature. Financial independence has become a significant milestone for many women today, bringing with it confidence, dignity, and the freedom to shape one’s own destiny. However, along with growth has come another silent challenge — the tendency to constantly observe, compare, and sometimes even compete with the journeys of others. But a crucial question arises: Is it necessary to track the growth of others in order to grow ourselves? From my personal experience of more than two decades as an entrepreneur, I have realised something very powerful — true growth begins the moment we stop looking sideways and start looking within. A Small Beginning I had a flourishing career of teaching abroad, but when I restarted my career after moving back to India, my beginning was extremely small. My very first assignment was a simple home tuition for a single student, and the amount I earned was meagre. There was nothing glamorous about it. No recognition, no large batches, no big earnings. Just one student and one opportunity. But instead of worrying about how others were doing, how many students they had, or how much they were earning, I made a conscious decision—my only focus would be on improving myself. I focused on teaching better, preparing better, and becoming more disciplined and consistent. And slowly, without even realising it, things began to grow. One student became two, two became a small group, and gradually, over the years, the work expanded beyond what I had initially imagined. Looking back today, I can confidently say that the growth did not happen because I competed with others. It happened because I competed with myself yesterday. Comparison Creates Noise When we keep watching others' journeys too closely, we unknowingly divert our own energy. Comparison creates unnecessary noise in our minds. It brings doubts, insecurities, and sometimes even negativity. Instead of walking our own path with clarity, we start questioning our speed, our direction, and our worth. True success grows through focus, not comparison. Every woman has her own story, her own pace, and her own struggles that others may never see. The path of one person can never be identical to another's. So comparing journeys is like comparing two different rivers flowing towards the same ocean — each with its own route, its own curves, and its own rhythm. As women, we already carry many responsibilities. We balance emotions, relationships, work, and society's expectations. In such a life, the last thing we need is the burden of comparison with one another. Instead, what we truly need is support for each other. When women encourage women, something extraordinary happens. Confidence grows. Opportunities multiply. Strength becomes collective rather than individual. There is enough space in the world for every woman to create her own identity. Each of us can build our own niche without stepping on someone else's path. Choose Encouragement Envy weakens us, but encouragement empowers us. Rather than questioning how someone else is progressing, we can ask a more meaningful question: "How can I grow a little better than I was yesterday?" Lift As You Rise Today, after twenty years of experience, the most valuable lesson I have learned is simple yet profound — focus on your own work with honesty and dedication, and success will quietly follow you. We, women, are capable, resilient, and creative. We do not need to pull each other down or compete in unhealthy ways. Instead, we can lift each other up while building our own dreams. Because when one woman rises, she does not rise alone. She inspires many others to believe that they can rise, too. And perhaps that is the most beautiful form of success. (The writer is a tutor based in Thane. Views personal.)

Appeasement Politics

Every generation of the Congress party produces its own small heresies. Some are tactical, others merely foolish. Maharashtra Congress president Harshwardhan Sapkal’s latest remarks declaring Tipu Sultan as the moral and historical equivalent of Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj belongs squarely in the latter category. It is not just bad history but bad politics masquerading as ‘secular’ virtue.


Sapkal’s claim rests on a fashionable syllogism that as both men fought foreign powers, therefore both embody the same ideals of bravery, tolerance and national resistance. Chhatrapati Shivaji’s idea of Swarajya was not merely freedom from foreign rule but a carefully constructed political ethic, combining military pragmatism with a striking - by early-modern standards - religious pluralism. He protected shrines across faiths and grounded legitimacy in consent rather than conversion.


Tipu Sultan was, by contrast, a ruler of genuine ability but narrow vision. He fought the British bravely, died defending Srirangapatna, modernised his army and experimented with administration. None of this is in dispute. What is persistently airbrushed out by Congress spokesmen and so-called ‘liberal’ commentators is the other half of the record. Tipu’s reign was marked by forced conversions, temple destruction and brutal repression in regions such as Malabar and Kodagu. Contemporary accounts, later historians and even sympathetic chroniclers record campaigns of coercion that targeted non-Muslim populations with little restraint.


To note this is not to indulge in communal polemic but to insist on historical honesty. Tipu Sultan, by all accounts, was a complex personality. He was also deeply religious in a way that shaped policy. His establishment of a theocratic order ‘Sarkar-e-Khudadad’ and systematic disadvantaging of non-Muslims within and beyond his kingdom place him far closer to Aurangzeb than to Shivaji. Occasional temple grants or symbolic gestures were tactical concessions, and not evidence of tolerance.


Yet India’s lifetime liberals, desperate to defend a secular halo at any cost, treat Tipu’s record as an inconvenience to be edited out. They scoff at ‘right-wing history’ while practising a far cruder form of selective memory themselves. A tyrant’s token does not erase a trail of coercion. Nor does opposition to the British automatically confer moral sainthood.


The entry of Asaduddin Owaisi, invoking anti-colonial martyrdom and even Mahatma Gandhi, only sharpens the problem. Resistance to empire is not a blank cheque. History is full of rulers who fought foreigners while oppressing their own subjects. Mature politics can hold both truths at once.


Sapkal’s remarks also reveal the limits of Congress’s minority-appeasement reflex. By insisting that Tipu and Shivaji are the same, the party insults both history and Maharashtra’s political culture. Shivaji Maharaj is a civilisational symbol whose legitimacy rests precisely on his refusal to reduce power to faith. To equate him with a ruler whose statecraft was inseparable from religious coercion is to hollow out the great Maratha ruler himself. The deeper embarrassment lies in the fact that the Congress still equates secularism with flattering minorities and sanitising inconvenient figures. 


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