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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Democracy Under Siege

Once hailed as the Black Sea’s democratic beacon, Georgia now teeters between its European aspirations and a return to post-Soviet authoritarian reflexes.

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When protesters set fire to barricades in Tbilisi over the weekend, the smoke that rose above Freedom Square carried the residue of Georgia’s long and troubled struggle to define itself as a democracy, as a European nation and as a state still shadowed by the ghosts of empire.


Saturday’s local elections, marred by violence, arrests, and accusations of a coup attempt, mark the latest act in a drama that has stretched across three decades of fragile independence.


Prime Minister Irakli Kobakhidze called the protests an “attempted coup,” vowing severe reprisals against what he branded “foreign agents.” Opposition figures, meanwhile, denounced the government’s crushing of dissent as a slide into authoritarianism. Between these two narratives lies the uncomfortable truth which is that Georgia’s democracy, once seen as a model for the post-Soviet world, is fraying under the weight of paranoia and populism.


The weekend’s clashes were ostensibly over municipal polls - a routine event that should have passed with little fanfare. Instead, they became a referendum on Georgia’s political soul. The ruling Georgian Dream party, in power since 2012, claimed sweeping victories in all cities and councils, even as most opposition groups boycotted the vote, alleging manipulation and intimidation. For a country still recovering from the disputed parliamentary elections of 2024, the results only deepened public mistrust.


The roots of this crisis run deep. Georgia’s post-Soviet history has always oscillated between democratic promise and political repression. In 2003, the Rose Revolution toppled Eduard Shevardnadze’s corrupt regime, ushering in a new era of reform under Mikheil Saakashvili. But Saakashvili’s own rule grew increasingly autocratic, and by the time Georgian Dream ousted him, many hoped the pendulum would finally settle in the middle - a stable, European democracy grounded in the rule of law.


Instead, the pendulum has swung back. The current government has jailed opposition figures, muzzled the press, and raided civil-society groups — actions disturbingly reminiscent of Russia’s methods, not Brussels’. Western diplomats have accused the government of democratic backsliding and of deliberately stalling Georgia’s long-promised path to European Union membership, enshrined in its constitution but frozen by Brussels last year. Kobakhidze and his allies, for their part, claim that the West seeks to drag Georgia into the war in Ukraine - a conspiratorial refrain borrowed from Moscow’s propaganda lexicon.


At the heart of this confrontation lies a question as old as Georgia’s independence: who truly speaks for the Georgian people? The government insists it is defending stability and sovereignty against foreign meddling. The opposition argues that it is defending democracy against creeping authoritarianism. Both wrap themselves in patriotic rhetoric, but only one side controls the police, the courts, and the airwaves.


Georgia’s turmoil cannot be understood without reference to geography. Wedged between Russia, Turkey, and the Black Sea, it has long been a strategic prize.


Since the 2008 war with Russia, which ended with the loss of Abkhazia and South Ossetia, Tbilisi has sought security through integration with the West. Yet each crisis nudges it closer to the orbit of its northern neighbour. The rhetoric of ‘foreign agents’ and ‘subversive acts’ would not sound out of place in the Kremlin.


For Europe, Georgia’s drift poses a dilemma. Brussels has tied accession to reforms in judicial independence, press freedom, and transparency. But every crackdown in Tbilisi weakens the EU’s leverage and strengthens Moscow’s hand. A country once courted as the democratic success story of the Caucasus now risks becoming another cautionary tale of democratic decay.


Still, Georgia’s streets continue to speak. Even after police fired water cannons and arrested opposition leaders, hundreds of demonstrators returned to parliament on Sunday, vowing to save democracy. Their numbers were smaller, but their defiance echoed the courage that once inspired the Rose Revolution.


For now, Georgian Dream’s grip appears firm. But as history in this volatile region shows, repression often buys only temporary calm. Georgia’s rulers would do well to remember that legitimacy cannot be manufactured by force and that the dream of democracy, once awakened, is not so easily extinguished.

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