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C.S. Krishnamurthy

21 June 2025 at 2:15:51 pm

Parents Before Property

The Bombay High Court’s recent decision upholding the cancellation of a gift deed executed by elderly parents in favour of their son is more than a legal victory. It is a timely reminder that parenthood cannot be reduced to a property transaction. By affirming that parents may revoke a property transfer when children fail to honour their obligation of care and support, the Court has reinforced a principle that is both legal and moral. The verdict in the Ashwin Ramesh Soni v. Ramesh Bachaulal...

Parents Before Property

The Bombay High Court’s recent decision upholding the cancellation of a gift deed executed by elderly parents in favour of their son is more than a legal victory. It is a timely reminder that parenthood cannot be reduced to a property transaction. By affirming that parents may revoke a property transfer when children fail to honour their obligation of care and support, the Court has reinforced a principle that is both legal and moral. The verdict in the Ashwin Ramesh Soni v. Ramesh Bachaulal Soni & Ors., reinforces the objective of the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007. The Court recognised that when parents transfer property with the legitimate expectation of being cared for, and that expectation is wilfully defeated, the law can restore justice. A gift founded on trust cannot survive when that trust is fundamentally breached. The judgement raises uncomfortable questions. What does it say about society when ageing parents must seek justice against their own children? Why should those who devoted a lifetime to raising families spend their twilight years proving that they deserve dignity? Have we begun to mistake inheritance for entitlement and affection for convenience? Changing Times These are not merely legal questions. They reflect the changing character of Indian families. India takes pride in its tradition of strong family bonds. Close-knit families, cherished traditions and an enduring culture of honouring parents have long defined our collective identity. Such images have long symbolised the country’s cultural strength. But growing reports of elder abuse present a sobering reality. Many parents experience neglect, emotional humiliation or isolation within homes they built. Some are confined to a single room after transferring property. Others are abandoned altogether. The emotional trauma often outweighs the financial loss. The ruling recognises what may be called an unwritten family contract. Parents spend decades sacrificing personal comforts to educate children, fund their ambitions, conduct weddings and build family assets. In return, they expect not luxury but companionship, care, respect and emotional security. By acknowledging that certain family transactions rest on mutual trust rather than legal formalities alone, the Court has reaffirmed that the law will protect vulnerable senior citizens when that trust is exploited. Reports frequently describe retired parents evicted from homes gifted to children, widowed mothers fighting prolonged legal battles for shelter, and elderly couples seeking police protection against their own offspring. Many such cases remain hidden because families fear social stigma more than personal suffering. Family Trust The Maintenance and Welfare of Parents and Senior Citizens Act, 2007 was enacted precisely because traditional family safeguards were proving inadequate. Section 23 empowers authorities to declare property transfers void when they are made on the understanding that the recipient will provide for the transferor's basic needs, but subsequently fails to do so. The verdict has given practical meaning to this safeguard by making it clear that the law will not remain a silent spectator when trust is betrayed. Some critics argue that legal intervention weakens family relationships. The opposite is true. Good laws exist not because every family fails but because some do. Just as traffic laws protect responsible drivers from reckless ones, laws safeguarding parents protect families from exploitation without diminishing genuine affection. But society also has responsibilities. Financial advisers should caution senior citizens against transferring valuable assets prematurely. In many situations, a well-drafted will offers greater protection than an outright gift deed. Where property is transferred during one's lifetime, expectations regarding care and maintenance should be clearly documented to minimise future disputes. Children should remember that caring for ageing parents is not charity. It is gratitude expressed through everyday actions. I recall meeting an elderly gentleman at a bank several years ago. He proudly showed me documents transferring his house to his only son and remarked with complete confidence, “Now I have no worries. My son will take care of everything.” His face reflected absolute trust. Thankfully, countless children justify such trust every day. But when that faith is broken, the emotional consequences can be devastating. Indian culture has long viewed caring for parents as a privilege, not a burden. Honouring parents goes beyond living together. A caring phone call, a visit during illness, financial support or shared moments can bring comfort, dignity and belonging. Loneliness often wounds seniors more deeply than disease. When parents must approach courts for protection from their own children, it is time for society to introspect. (The writer is a retired banker and author. He can be reached at krs1957@hotmail.com. Views personal.)

How You Carry Success

Success in business is often presented as a sequence of well-timed decisions, strategic clarity, and consistent execution. Narratives are carefully shaped to reflect growth, resilience, and eventual triumph. Yet, what remains less explored is not the success itself, but how individuals choose to carry that success once they achieve it.


Recently, I observed a founder whose journey offered a compelling perspective on this distinction. Trained as an engineer, he ventured into a field far removed from his expertise early in his career. That first venture did not succeed. It would have been easy to frame that experience as an exception or distance it from his present reality. Instead, he did something far more unusual.


In a room filled with accomplished professionals, he spoke openly about that failure. There was no attempt to soften the narrative or repackage it into something more palatable. He shared it with clarity and composure, treating it not as a flaw in his journey, but as a foundational part of it.


What followed in his career was, by all standards, impressive. He went on to build a company in the education sector that now operates successfully with a capable team and a structure that allows it to function beyond his individual presence. The business has grown, the organisation has stabilised, and his position as a founder is firmly established.


Yet what stood out most was not the scale of his success, but the manner in which he carried it.


His tone remained measured, his presence grounded, and his interactions with others reflected a genuine sense of respect. He ensured that people around him felt acknowledged and welcome, regardless of their position. There was no visible need to assert authority, no effort to dominate the room, and no trace of defensiveness when speaking about his past.


In that moment, something important became clear.


Success does not automatically translate into a strong personal brand. How one carries that success determines how it is experienced by others.


In professional environments, people are constantly forming impressions, often without realising it. They are not only observing achievements; they are interpreting behaviour. They notice whether someone speaks with openness or guardedness, whether they acknowledge their journey honestly or present a curated version of it, and whether their success has made them more accessible or more distant.


This is where a subtle but significant divide begins to appear. Many professionals, as they grow, begin to protect their image more carefully. Failures are edited out, narratives are refined, and conversations become increasingly controlled. The intention is often to maintain credibility. However, what is sometimes overlooked is that excessive control can create distance. It can make interactions feel less authentic and, over time, less trustworthy.


Others take a different approach. They recognise that credibility is not weakened by honesty; it is strengthened by it. They understand that acknowledging failure does not reduce authority, but reinforces it. It signals confidence that is not dependent on perfection, and a sense of self that is not threatened by past outcomes.


This distinction is not always obvious, but it is deeply felt. People are naturally drawn to individuals who appear secure in their own journey. It creates a sense of ease, a willingness to engage, and a level of trust that cannot be manufactured through carefully constructed messaging alone. In many cases, professionals do not realise when this shift begins to occur.


What starts as a desire to present oneself well can gradually turn into an unconscious effort to appear flawless. Over time, this can limit how others relate to them, even if their achievements continue to grow. For founders and senior professionals, this becomes an important point of reflection. Not as a correction, but as an opportunity.


The question is not whether success has been achieved, but how that success is being experienced by others.


If you are looking to build a personal brand that reflects not only your accomplishments but also your depth, relatability, and long-term influence, it may be worth examining how your story is being communicated. I offer a limited number of complimentary consultation conversations for individuals who wish to refine their personal brand and shape it into something meaningful and enduring.


You may explore this further here: https://sprect.com/pro/divyaaadvaani Sometimes, it is not success alone, but the way it is carried, that defines lasting impact.


(The author is a personal branding expert. She has clients from 14+ countries. Views personal.)

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