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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Regional Instability Catches World Attention For Wrong Reason

Updated: Nov 25, 2024

Regional Instability

Pakistan mourns yet another tragic loss of its citizens, including women and children, following a horrific terrorist attack. A convoy of 200 buses came under fire, leaving dozens brutally killed in cold blood on Thursday, November 21. The ambush on passenger convoys in Pakistan’s Lower Kurram district, resulting in 39 deaths and 28 injuries, underscores the interplay of local instability and broader geopolitical challenges. The attack is emblematic of the vulnerabilities that plague Pakistan’s tribal areas and their implications for regional and international actors.


Lower Kurram, a volatile district bordering Afghanistan, is a flashpoint where sectarian divides, tribal disputes, and the presence of militant groups converge. The region’s history of violence is intertwined with its geographical significance, as it straddles Afghanistan’s eastern provinces of Khost and Paktia. The proximity to Afghanistan has allowed militant groups such as Tehreek-i-Taliban Pakistan (TTP) and ISIL to exploit local tensions for their broader ideological and operational goals.


The incident also highlights the complexity of maintaining stability in an area where state control is often tenuous. Pakistan’s tribal belt has long been a buffer zone, but in recent years, it has become a frontline in South Asia’s interconnected conflicts. This latest violence reflects the broader instability that complicates Islamabad’s efforts to project authority in its border regions.


Global powers, each with their own interests in Pakistan, have a stake in how Islamabad manages such crises. China, heavily invested in Pakistan through the China-Pakistan Economic Corridor (CPEC), views any instability as a direct threat to its Belt and Road Initiative (BRI). Persistent violence in areas like Kurram jeopardises both Chinese investments and the safety of Chinese personnel working on infrastructure projects. For Washington, the resurgence of militant activity in Pakistan is a reminder of the unfinished business left in the region after the U.S. withdrawal from Afghanistan. The porous border between Pakistan and Afghanistan facilitates the mobility of groups like the TTP, raising fears of a broader destabilisation that could impact US interests in South Asia.


Moscow, though geographically distant, is equally attentive. Russia’s growing outreach to Pakistan, particularly in the defence and energy sectors, depends on Islamabad’s ability to maintain internal order. Instability in regions like Kurram weakens Pakistan’s capacity to engage with international partners and undermines its position in regional platforms such as the Shanghai Cooperation Organisation (SCO).


Since the Taliban’s takeover of Afghanistan in 2021, Pakistan has struggled to manage cross-border security. While the Taliban regime in Kabul has offered assurances, militant activity along the Durand Line has surged. The Kurram attack exposes the limits of Islamabad’s ability to rely on diplomatic engagement with the Taliban to secure its borders. Afghanistan’s shadow looms large over Pakistan’s tribal areas, with militant sanctuaries and ideological spillovers contributing to the cycle of violence.


Adding to the complexity is that Kurram, home to both Sunni and Shia communities, has witnessed repeated clashes fuelled by historical grievances and external influences. The Sunni-Shia divide is not merely a local issue; it is part of a larger geopolitical struggle. Regional powers like Saudi Arabia and Iran have historically used sectarian loyalties to project their influence in South Asia. In Kurram, these external pressures exacerbate the existing tensions, turning local disputes into broader sectarian confrontations.


The Kurram ambush also reflects Pakistan’s challenges in enforcing its writ in tribal areas. While tribal jirgas and temporary ceasefires have provided short-term relief, they are no substitute for a comprehensive strategy. Islamabad’s reliance on ad hoc measures has often delayed meaningful reforms, leaving the underlying causes of conflict unaddressed. Land disputes, militant infiltration, and sectarian grievances persist, creating a fertile ground for recurring violence.


For Pakistan, incidents like this not only undermine its internal stability but also weaken its credibility on the international stage. As a country seeking to position itself as a regional leader, Pakistan’s inability to manage its border regions hinders its diplomatic and strategic ambitions. The situation further complicates its relations with allies like China and multilateral partners in forums like the SCO.


For the international community, the Kurram ambush serves as a wake-up call. It underscores the interconnectedness of local conflicts and global security. Militancy in Pakistan’s tribal areas far-reaching implications, from destabilising Afghanistan to inspiring extremism beyond South Asia. Addressing this requires coordinated efforts that go beyond immediate security responses.


The path forward means integrating counterterrorism efforts with socio-economic development and political reform in its tribal belt. For global powers, supporting Pakistan’s stabilisation efforts is a moral and strategic imperative. This includes investments in conflict resolution, infrastructure development, and countering the ideological narratives that fuel extremism. The Kurram ambush is a grim reminder of the fragile dynamics at play in South Asia. Its resolution requires not just national but international cooperation. The cost of inaction is high—not just for Pakistan but for the entire region, as local instability continues to ripple through the global geopolitical landscape.


(The author is a senior journalist based in Islamabad. Views personal.)

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