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Rahul Kulkarni

30 March 2025 at 3:32:54 pm

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is...

The Boundary Collapse

When kindness becomes micromanagement It started with a simple leave request.   “Hey, can I take Friday off? Need a personal day,” Meera messaged Rohit. Rohit replied instantly:   “Of course. All good. Just stay reachable if anything urgent comes up.”   He meant it as reassurance. But the team didn’t hear reassurance. They heard a rule.   By noon, two things had shifted inside The Workshop:   Meera felt guilty for even asking. Everyone else quietly updated their mental handbook: Leave is allowed… but not really. This is boundary collapse… when a leader’s good intentions unintentionally blur the limits that protect autonomy and rest. When care quietly turns into control Founders rarely intend to micromanage.   What looks like control from the outside often starts as care from the inside. “Let me help before something breaks.” “Let me stay involved so we don’t lose time.” “Loop me in… I don’t want you stressed.” Supportive tone.   Good intentions.   But one invisible truth defines workplace psychology: When power says “optional,” it never feels optional.
So when a client requested a revision, Rohit gently pinged:   “If you’re free, could you take a look?” Of course she logged in.   Of course she handled it.   And by Monday, the cultural shift was complete: Leave = location change, not a boundary.   A founder’s instinct had quietly become a system. Pattern 1: The Generous Micromanager Modern micromanagement rarely looks aggressive. It looks thoughtful :   “Let me refine this so you’re not stuck.” “I’ll review it quickly.”   “Share drafts so we stay aligned.”   Leaders believe they’re being helpful. Teams hear:   “You don’t fully trust me.” “I should check with you before finishing anything.”   “My decisions aren’t final.” Gentle micromanagement shrinks ownership faster than harsh micromanagement ever did because people can’t challenge kindness. Pattern 2: Cultural conditioning around availability In many Indian workplaces, “time off” has an unspoken footnote: Be reachable. Just in case. No one says it directly.   No one pushes back openly.   The expectation survives through habit: Leave… but monitor messages. Rest… but don’t disconnect. Recover… but stay alert. Contrast this with a global team we worked with: A designer wrote,   “I’ll be off Friday, but available if needed.” Her manager replied:   “If you’re working on your off-day, we mismanaged the workload… not the boundary.”   One conversation.   Two cultural philosophies.   Two completely different emotional outcomes.   Pattern 3: The override reflex Every founder has a version of this reflex.   Whenever Rohit sensed risk, real or imagined, he stepped in: Rewriting copy.   Adjusting a design.   Rescoping a task.   Reframing an email. Always fast.   Always polite.   Always “just helping.” But each override delivered one message:   “Your autonomy is conditional.” You own decisions…   until the founder feels uneasy.   You take initiative…   until instinct replaces delegation.   No confrontation.   No drama.   Just quiet erosion of confidence.   The family-business amplification Boundary collapse becomes extreme in family-managed companies.   We worked with one firm where four family members… founder, spouse, father, cousin… all had informal authority. Everyone cared.   Everyone meant well.   But for employees, decision-making became a maze: Strategy approved by the founder.   Aesthetics by the spouse.   Finance by the father. Tone by the cousin.   They didn’t need leadership.   They needed clarity.   Good intentions without boundaries create internal anarchy. The global contrast A European product team offered a striking counterexample.   There, the founder rarely intervened mid-stream… not because of distance, but because of design:   “If you own the decision, you own the consequences.” Decision rights were clear.   Escalation paths were explicit.   Authority didn’t shift with mood or urgency. No late-night edits.   No surprise rewrites.   No “quick checks.”   No emotional overrides. As one designer put it:   “If my boss wants to intervene, he has to call a decision review. That friction protects my autonomy.” The result:   Faster execution, higher ownership and zero emotional whiplash. Boundaries weren’t personal.   They were structural .   That difference changes everything. Why boundary collapse is so costly Its damage is not dramatic.   It’s cumulative.   People stop resting → you get presence, not energy.   People stop taking initiative → decisions freeze.   People stop trusting empowerment → autonomy becomes theatre.   People start anticipating the boss → performance becomes emotional labour.   People burn out silently → not from work, but from vigilance.   Boundary collapse doesn’t create chaos.   It creates hyper-alertness, the heaviest tax on any team. The real paradox Leaders think they’re being supportive. Teams experience supervision.   Leaders assume boundaries are obvious. Teams see boundaries as fluid. Leaders think autonomy is granted. Teams act as though autonomy can be revoked at any moment. This is the Boundary Collapse → a misunderstanding born not from intent, but from the invisible weight of power. Micromanagement today rarely looks like anger.   More often,   it looks like kindness without limits. (Rahul Kulkarni is Co-founder at PPS Consulting. He patterns the human mechanics of scaling where workplace behavior quietly shapes business outcomes. Views personal.)

Nine Financial Tips for a Prosperous Navratri

Updated: Oct 22, 2024

Nine Financial Tips

As we approach Navratri, I wish you all a joyous and prosperous festive season ahead. To help you stay on track with your financial goals during this time, here are nine essential financial tips to ensure your journey towards financial freedom is smooth and secure.


Build an Emergency Fund

Ensure you have at least six months’ worth of living expenses saved in a bank fixed deposit or a debt mutual fund. This serves as your emergency fund for unforeseen situations and ensures you are financially prepared for any rainy days ahead.


Review Your Asset Allocation

Revisit your financial plan to make sure your investments align with your financial goals. For goals within three years, consider bank fixed deposits/recurring deposits/debt mutual funds. For longer-term goals (beyond three years), a combination of hybrid mutual funds, equity mutual funds, direct equities and gold should be preferred.


Do Sufficient SIPs

Ensure you are investing enough through systematic investment plans (SIPs). Ideally, at least 25-30 per cent of your in-hand monthly income should be allocated towards SIPs in mutual funds/stocks/gold to help you build wealth consistently over time.


Make Lumpsum Investments

In addition to SIPs, consider making voluntary lump sum investments in the above longer term assets, whenever possible. Periodic lump sum contributions can significantly boost your overall wealth.


Increase Your SIPs Annually

As your income grows, so should your investments. Make it a point to increase your SIP amounts every year to keep up with your rising income. Again, aim for at least 30% of your monthly income towards investments.


Stay Invested

One of the most important rules of investing is to stay invested until your financial goals are met. Avoid treating your investments like an ATM. Pausing or redeeming your investments frequently disrupts their growth potential. Instead, try to raise an overdraft loan against your investments, to help whenever needed.


Health Insurance

Ensure that you and your family are adequately covered with comprehensive health insurance that includes necessary product features. A minimum cover of 25 lakhs per family member is recommended to safeguard against any major health-related expenses. Never solely rely on your employer’s health insurance.


Term Life Insurance

A term life insurance plan is essential for the financial security of your loved ones. Ensure you have a cover amounting to 10 times your annual income, plus any outstanding loans. Avoid combining insurance with investment plans—stick to a pure term insurance policy for adequate coverage.


Consult a Financial Advisor

Seek the help of a well-qualified, full-time financial advisor for making a financial plan and executing it. They will make your job easy. Never do-it-yourself in the case of wealth creation, financial goals, and investing.

Wishing you a financially secure and prosperous Navratri!

(The writer is a Chartered Accountant and CFA (USA). Financial Advisor. Views personal.)

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